He Is Refusing To Bring His Ex-Wife To His Son’s Wedding As His Plus-One, And Both His Ex-Wife And His Sister Think It Is Really Unfair

This man has two children– a son who is 22-years-old and a daughter who 18. But, about six years ago, his daughter ended up catching his wife with another man.
At that point, his daughter was stunned and decided to confide in his son. Then, after learning what happened, his son realized how serious the situation was, and they both told him the truth.
After verifying that his wife had, in fact, cheated on him, he ultimately went through a divorce. Plus, during the divorce hearing, both of his children expressed a desire to primarily stay with him.
So, he was given primary custody, and his then-ex-wife was allowed to have the children for one week each month. She also ended up moving with the other guy.
Since then, he has tried his best to cut his ex-wife out of his life. Their communication is very limited– consisting of the bare minimum that is needed to coordinate custody arrangements and handle their shared expenses.
He also made sure never to discuss their relationship with the children– even though his ex claimed that, after the divorce, the kids were “giving her hell.” This even pushed his ex to tell him that he needed to talk with their children.
He did sit down with his son and daughter at that point to ask if what his ex had said was true. Then, he learned that the kids really just did not want to stay at their mother’s house anymore.
“But, I explained that it would be best for everyone if they remained civil until they turned 18 so we wouldn’t have to go back to court,” he recalled.
Plus, he never heard any more complaints from his children after that. So, he thought that everything had been going fine.

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By the time his son turned 18, though, he had moved back in with him full-time in addition to starting college. Since then, his son has also graduated and will now be getting married in just a few short months.
His daughter, too, turned 18 this past summer and decided to live at his house full-time.
Just a few days ago, though, his ex-wife ended up calling him about some brand new drama. Apparently, she was crying and revealed that she had not been invited to his son’s wedding. Moreover, he found out that his son had not spoken to his mother in over a year.
His son did reportedly “drop in” at his ex’s house to see his daughter before she turned 18. But, eventually, that stopped happening. Plus, once his daughter turned 18, she cut off communication with his ex-wife as well.
He seemingly did not know about this, and his ex-wife has apparently been really torn up over it. She also ended up asking if he would be willing to bring her as a plus-one to their son’s wedding. That way, his ex would be able to see her son get married.
Honestly, though, he ultimately told his ex that if their son did not invite her, then it was not his place to bring her anyway.
But rather than understanding the tough position he was put in, his ex started claiming that he was the bad guy.
He got accused of trying to turn the kids against her, and his ex even threatened to take him to court again.
“Then I told her that there was no more custody agreement to take to court since both of them are above age 18, and I hung up,” he said.
Afterward, he also decided to sit down with both his son and daughter to get to the bottom of the situation. He asked if they had really cut off contact with their mother, and they both admitted they had.
And after finding that out, he attempted to explain that the kids did not need to do that for his sake. After all, he recognizes that his ex is still and will always be their mother.
Apparently, though, the kids claimed that they had discussed the decision to cut contact extensively with each other. Moreover, their plan was always to just hold out until they were 18. And to this day, they have no desire to be around his ex or the other guy because they believe his ex had destroyed the family.
So, he ended up telling his children that they are adults who can make up their own minds.
“And if that’s their decision, I won’t pressure them to change it,” he said.
Following this whole ordeal, though, he also decided to tell his sister about what had happened. But to his total surprise, his sister claimed that his son was actually being unfair. Plus, she even claimed that he needed to force his son to invite his ex to the wedding.
So now, with the event just around the corner, he has been left wondering if refusing to take his ex-wife to his son’s wedding is the wrong thing to do or not.
Do you think it is his job to repair the relationship between his children and his ex? Doesn’t his son have a right to decide who is and who isn’t invited to the wedding? Should he bring his ex-wife as his plus-one or not? What would you do?
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