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She has also discovered through their counseling that her husband is so exhausted by her own problems, and he carries around a lot of guilt for not being able to make her better.
This has, in turn, caused her husband to work too much and not open up to her. She believes her husband is “trying to fix” her in lieu of just being there for her, and he also turns a blind eye to the headway that she has made.
Milestones that she thinks are things to be proud of are things her husband sees as her being weak.
“After 6 meetings (and one therapist-switch prior), he told me he can’t see us getting past it; he doesn’t believe the process will help and, therefore, can’t fully commit to it,” she said.
“I told him that I have faith in us and believe we could become stronger as a couple and as individuals – but I need him to be willing to work with me; he told me he can’t, so I asked him to leave our apartment.”
Her husband moved out as she requested, and a day later, she doesn’t know if this means they’re breaking up or staying together. She does feel conflicted about their relationship, as a part of her thinks her husband abandoned her without making any effort.
But, another part of her acknowledges that she has a lot of issues that can be viewed as “baggage,” and her husband has forever been there for her throughout the worst times in her life. She’s left wondering if she should provide her husband with some kind of ultimatum, let him have more space, try to contact him, or give herself a set amount of time to pack it up regardless of his reaction.
What option do you think she should go with?
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