Her 24-Year-Old Boyfriend Started Rapping, And She Finds His Music Both Cringy And Very Disrespectful, So She’s Having Trouble Being Supportive
This 23-year-old woman has been with her boyfriend, who is 24, for nearly two years now.
But, at the beginning of their relationship, she learned that one of her boyfriend’s friends enjoyed making music as a hobby. So, by the third month of their relationship, her boyfriend had actually made a song with his friend.
Now, once her boyfriend approached her and told her about the song, she was brutally honest about listening to it.
“Noooo, I can’t hear you rap. I would be so cringed out,” she told her boyfriend.
After a few months passed by, though, she eventually caved and decided to listen to the song. Apparently, it was also a pretty hilarious experience.
Her boyfriend wound up rapping about money, other women, guns, and all of the stuff that clearly was not from experience– because she claimed she views her boyfriend as a huge teddy bear.
There was also one specific line that was obviously about another girl. So, she began making fun of her boyfriend and clowning him for rapping about a woman that wasn’t her.
“He found it funny and laughed along with me– saying it was the only thing he could find to rhyme,” she recalled.
Anyway, a lot of time has passed since then. But, just last week, her boyfriend came home from his friend’s house and revealed how he had made another song.
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After hearing that, her first thought was to jokingly ask if her boyfriend had mentioned another girl again in the lyrics. Rather than finding her teasing funny, though, he actually became very upset.
Her boyfriend claimed that he was actually really excited to share his music with her, yet he felt like her response was negative. He also admitted to how he wants to take music seriously and claimed he was really trying.
She was seriously shocked by this, though, and told her boyfriend that she had no idea he was so passionate about music. She also apologized for not reacting in a better way.
Rather than the argument dying down, though, her boyfriend decided to kick it up a notch.
More specifically, he apparently started ranting about how he should be allowed to rap about anything he wants.
She even agreed, too, but asked why her boyfriend would even want to rap about other women instead of her.
“I was also caught off guard because I assumed my relentless teasing last time he did it gave him the message that it wasn’t cool,” she explained.
“I had been under the impression that when I jokingly asked, ‘Did you mention another girl again?’ that he would joke back or say something like, ‘Nah, I learned my lesson the first time, haha.”
Obviously, though, that did not happen– and they wound up getting into a major fight. During that, her boyfriend detailed how since he is new to writing raps, he “requires total freedom.” Then, he even accused her of taking that freedom away from him.
The entire time, though, she revealed how she just could not get over how shocked she was. She could not believe that her boyfriend would be okay with “embarrassing her like that.”
What she means is that she never signed up to be the girlfriend of someone who disrespects her and women in general in songs. And it just makes her really uncomfortable to hear her boyfriend singing about other women in derogatory ways.
Still, that specific argument wound up ending after she just decided she would get over her issues with her boyfriend’s raps.
Just yesterday, though, that became seriously difficult for her.
Apparently, her boyfriend recorded yet another song with his friend that night and decided to send it to her. He also said that he gave her a “shoutout” on the song, so she was actually really excited to listen.
She soon realized, though, that the shoutout was not very flattering. Her boyfriend just said something about getting with someone else’s girl before saying that his new girl has a bigger backside than his old one.
And quite frankly, she said this immediately made her super uncomfortable.
“I’m trying so hard to be supportive, so I told him I appreciated the shoutout, which I do,” she admitted.
“I can tell he’s trying, but hearing him refer to me like that is just so gross to me. I would prefer not to be mentioned at that point.”
So, while she realizes that sometimes you have to separate “art” from the “artist,” the whole experience is weird for her.
After all, the songs have forced her to view her teddy bear of a boyfriend in an entirely new light– one that she really does not vibe with.
And swallowing her feelings has proven to be very difficult. She knows it will continue being a challenge, and she really does not enjoy that– especially because she is an open book who hates lying.
She also loves sharing her true thoughts with her boyfriend but knows that if she is honest, her boyfriend will just get angry at her again and accuse her of “hindering his creativity.”
“I hate the feeling of being held back, so I never want him to feel that way,” she vented.
“But I just wish he naturally respected my boundaries and that I didn’t have to desensitize myself to his new self-expression.”
So, now that it has become really difficult for her to support her boyfriend’s music, she has been left wondering how to deal with this situation.
Can you understand why she views her boyfriend’s raps as cringy, especially if they don’t really talk about any of his real experiences? Do you also get why his lyrics make her uncomfortable? Should she feel obligated to support her boyfriend? Or should she try to talk to him about this?
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