She Commented On Her Stepdaughter’s B.O. At The Dinner Table, And Said More Showers Were Needed, So Her Stepdaughter Became Pretty Embarrassed
This 47-year-old woman married her husband, who is 48, a long time ago. And since then, they have had three sons together– Jesse, Todd, and Jake– who are 12, 10, and 8-years-old, respectively.
Before they got married, her husband also had two children of his own– a son named Zak, who is 19, and a daughter, Sam, who is 16.
So, Zak currently lives in an apartment with his boyfriend; meanwhile, Sam lives with her and her husband, and Sam visits her biological mother’s home every other weekend.
Anyway, she claimed that she really loves Sam and getting to be her stepmom.
“It’s so exhilarating to have a daughter to bond with, to put it selfishly,” she admitted.
“I really do love the woman she is becoming because she’s sweet and generous and quick-witted.”
She and Sam reportedly have a ton of fun whenever they go out together. And beyond just the fun times, she truly believes that she has forged a strong bond with the teen.
The only issue, though, is that she recently realized Sam has begun to “kick up quite a funk.” According to her, Sam is reaching that age when teenagers need a few showers a day in order to steer clear of sweat stink.
On top of the usual teenage smell, her stepdaughter is also apparently a very active girl. Sam runs, swims, bikes, and even plays soccer.
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While she thinks her stepdaughter needs to shower a couple of times a day, though, she revealed how she is lucky if Sam showers even just once a day.
Apparently, her stepdaughter will either brush her teeth after waking up in the morning or before bed at night. Aside from those times, though, she claimed that Sam had “stank breath.”
Then, if her stepdaughter is not leaving the house, Sam will just hang out in her sweaty pajamas all day and “bums around” with oily hair.
“So, most weekends she’s with us, she sometimes showers on Friday and then again on Monday,” she explained.
“I don’t know what goes on at her mother’s place in that department.”
In the past, though, she has tried to delicately tell Sam that she needed to freshen up more throughout the day. And usually, her stepdaughter agreed with her and implemented a proper hygiene schedule for a few days following their conversations.
But afterward, Sam reportedly just falls right back into the same “nasty habits.”
Just last week, she also decided to comment on her stepdaughter’s smell again. That time, though, it sparked some drama.
It all began after they went to eat dinner, and Sam sat down next to her at the dinner table. Immediately, though, she realized that her stepdaughter “smelled positively rank.”
Apparently, Sam had gone for a run before dinner. But her stepdaughter never bothered to take a shower before sitting to eat with everyone. So, she said something.
“I told her that I needed to move away from her at the table because of her B.O.,” she recalled.
After she said that, though, her stepdaughter started tearing up. Plus, Sam did not eat any dinner that night and did not leave her bedroom until around 12:00 p.m. the following day.
This pushed her husband to accuse her of being insensitive. At the same time, though, she pointed out how her husband could not give her any better ideas on how to handle Sam’s lack of hygiene.
She claimed that she had already tried more “gentle” ways to approach her stepdaughter in the past. For instance, she and her husband tried getting Sam higher quality body care items– like deodorants, soaps, shampoos, conditioners, toothpaste, and special toothbrushes.
They also made sure that her stepdaughter had access to more “quick fix” options– such as dry shampoo, perfume, gum, and breath mints.
Sam only ever utilized the breath mints, though, and continued showering just three to six times per week.
Some of the firmer approaches she and her husband have tried implementing were barring Sam from going to events until she showered.
But, she claimed that her stepdaughter would just call their bluff and go to the same events another day– still without showering.
And since Sam used to shower regularly as a tween and even after puberty, she claimed that she is genuinely concerned about the core issues of her stepdaughter’s hygiene shift.
“It seems like she is going for longer stretches and even going to school without having showered for a couple of days,” she explained.
“I don’t want her to have this follow her throughout school and be known as the smelly kid. And I want to understand why, when she’s visibly uncomfortable because of her lack of showering, she doesn’t clean up.”
In spite of how pure her intentions may be, though, it was clear that her stepdaughter became upset after she made that comment at the dinner table.
So now, she has been left wondering whether telling Sam that she needs to shower more makes her a total jerk or not.
Is it reasonable why she is concerned about Sam? Does it seem like she was trying to be mean with her comment? At the same time, is it understandable that her stepdaughter got embarrassed? How could she have handled this situation better?
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