Her Friend Hosted A Dinner Party But Didn’t Tell Any Of The Guests They Were Expected To Pay Until Afterward, So She Didn’t Want To, And It Started A Big Argument
A few weeks ago, this young woman in her thirties was invited to a dinner party at her friend’s house. So, before she showed up for the gathering– which took place a few nights ago– she asked if she should bring any food with her.
Her friend told her that wasn’t necessary, though, and claimed it was not going to be a potluck. Instead, her friend actually planned to make dinner for everyone.
So, she recalled how, come the night of the dinner party, everything started out great. There were seven people in total in attendance, and the food was reportedly good.
Her friend served some salad and chicken skewers as an appetizer and smoked gouda mashed potatoes with short ribs for the main course. Then, for dessert, her friend got a treat from the bakery.
So, during the meal, she and her friends apparently started laughing and called her other friend– the one who hosted the dinner– a chef because her friend had cooked a nice big dinner for everyone.
“And we all said how much we appreciate it because it is hard to get everyone together at the same time,” she added.
Once the dinner ended, she and her friends also helped clean up and wash the dishes before they all sat down to drink some wine.
Eventually, though, it started to get pretty late. So, some of the guests began heading out, and as everyone went to leave, her friend who hosted told everyone not to forget to Venmo, Cash App, or Zelle her money.
Now, after her friend said that, a few of the guests– including her– were confused.
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So, she was ultimately the one who broke the ice and asked, “What am I sending you money for?”
At that point, her friend just said the money was for cooking dinner. She still did not get it, though, and told her friend that. She also asked why everyone was expected to pay.
Well, her friend wound up claiming to have spent money on the food. And obviously, her friend hosted and cooked dinner for all of their friends.
But, she believed that was her friend’s choice when they decided to host a dinner party– and she called her friend out on that.
“None of us asked you to. You volunteered to do it, and you never mentioned paying until now,” she told her friend.
Shockingly, though, her friend just responded by saying they did not host the whole dinner for free.
So, she pointed out how her friend should have told everyone that was the expectation before offering to host a whole dinner party.
“I don’t think it’s fair to just bring this up and expect people to pay,” she vented.
Her friend still did not understand her perspective, though, and ended up calling her a jerk. Her friend also claimed that they did not spend hours grocery shopping and cooking for free.
This sparked an argument, and she was just appalled because she had never heard of someone hosting a dinner party and expecting payment afterward.
Nonetheless, she wound up just sending her friend $40 over Venmo to end the incident before leaving.
Now, she seriously does not believe she is in the wrong here– particularly because her friend told everyone not to bring any food. On top of that, every single guest opted to bring something anyway– which obviously cost money.
For instance, she showed up with a rum cake from her local bakery; meanwhile, two guests brought a charcuterie and cheese board. Some other girls who attended also brought wine and candles to set the mood.
While some of her friends have taken her side, though, other people claim that it is normal to pay for food after attending a dinner party at someone else’s house.
So now, she has been left wondering whether not wanting to pay her friend for the dinner party was actually a jerky thing to do or not.
Is paying for dinner parties the norm? Regardless, do you think her friend should have been upfront about that expectation when she asked if she should bring anything? Did she have a right not to want to pay? If you had been in her shoes, would you have felt the same way?
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