His Girlfriend Recently Revealed That She Most Likely Will Never Trust Him, And This Is Really Beginning To Take A Toll On Him
When you meet someone on an online dating app, it’s normal and usually suggested to keep your guard up for a while in case things go wrong. But after dating someone for a few months, you should be able to start being yourself and open up.
One man is struggling to connect with his girlfriend, who he met online. They’ve been in a relationship for eight months, but she recently admitted to feeling like she’ll never be able to let her guard down for him.
He’s 45-years-old, a father, and works in media. He films many things on-air and in front of large crowds, so he’s always had an outgoing personality. He met his 43-year-old girlfriend on a dating app.
“We met, fell in love, and I think she is the most beautiful woman in the world,” he explained.
They both experienced bad marriages where their exes cheated on them, so they each carry some emotional baggage and realize how important it is to honor each other’s feelings.
He believes that due to her first unlucky marriage, she’s been cursed with the bad habit of overthinking and making up bad scenarios in her head.
For instance, she recently thought he was living in debt and only dating her for her money.
“This really hurt me as all I wanted to do is be with her for her,” he said.
“I had to sit her down and go through all my online bank accounts and credit records for her to understand I wasn’t lying to her and I wasn’t in debt.”
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After some time had passed, he sat down with her to go over new material he had set up for an on-air media segment he’d be doing. He thought it would be funny to include a joke about him having a ‘sugar mama girlfriend,’ thinking she had gotten over any financial worries with him.
She did not find his joke funny, and they got into a huge argument which ended with her telling him that even though she could see them having a long-term relationship, she would always have her guard up around him.
Her lack of trust in him has also affected other parts of their relationship. For example, he’s introduced her to many family members, including his parents and children. She has family and children she could introduce him to, but he’s only ever met her cousin, who lives abroad.
Her lack of trust in him is beginning to take a toll on him. His therapist pointed out that he is often ‘walking on eggshells’ around her.
He thought a nice vacation away together would help their relationship, so he booked them a European trip. Now, he’s beginning to change his mind about going.
“How can I be with someone who doesn’t trust me after 8 months?” he asked.
How can he earn her trust, or should he give up on trying to earn it?
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