If you’re dating someone who’s worried about not being free enough in your relationship, do you think that means you’re both better off single? And if you were with someone like that who asked to take a break while they went on vacation, what would you do?
This man’s girlfriend is going on vacation to Rome for a couple of weeks, and recently, she announced that she basically wants to take a break while she’s over there and press pause on their romance.
“According to her, it’s not because she loves me any less, and it’s not because she has anyone specific in mind. She says she simply wants to feel completely free while she’s there, without the expectations or limitations that come with being in a committed relationship,” he explained.
“What confuses me is that she keeps insisting this is supposed to be a mature and modern way of handling things. Some of her friends apparently agree.”
“The argument is that we’re still young, that experiences are important, and that trying to control what your partner does while traveling comes from insecurity rather than genuine love.”
His girlfriend’s friends believe that if you have a solid relationship, it’s really not an issue to put a pause on it so you can go be free. And then, you can simply pick back up where you left off when you feel like it.
The problem is that he doesn’t see his girlfriend’s request that way. He thinks a relationship is not something you can opt out of when you feel like commitment is no longer convenient.
It’s not something to be turned off or on like a TV. You’re either in, or you’re out.
“If she wants the freedom to behave as if she’s single in Rome, then as far as I’m concerned, she is single. What I’m struggling with is that several people have suggested my reaction reflects possessiveness, jealousy, or even outdated ideas about relationships,” he continued.
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So he is left wondering if he’s being insecure or toxic, or if his girlfriend is being the unreasonable one.
Wow, his girlfriend is ridiculous, and her friends are too. She obviously wants to be free enough to cheat on him or do what she wants if a better guy comes along, because there’s no other reason to take a break on a relationship while on vacation.
This just spells the end of their love story, because even if she does end up changing her mind and not wanting to take a break, she has already made her intentions clear.
He should honestly just tell her they’re done. Now, she can be free to do anything or anyone she wants!
What do you think?
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