How long would you say it takes to normally fall in love with someone? Get your answer ready and then tell me, do you think it’s possible to fall in love with someone on a first date, or is that just crazy?
This girl has spent the last couple of weeks texting a marine, who recently got out of a relationship after his girlfriend wound up cheating on him.
“I’m in the process of getting divorced, so when we were first FaceTiming, we both said we’re not trying to rush into anything. That being said, the chemistry is really there, and we just hit it off right away and started FaceTiming every night,” she explained.
“One time he made a joke about bottle service girls hitting on him at the bar and clarified they weren’t and that he wouldn’t because [he said], ‘We’re talking right? Like, you would say, we’re in the talking stage?'”
“And another time when we discussed our first date coming up, I wanted to make sure that he didn’t just think we were going to hook up, and he looked offended that I asked that and said, ‘I thought this was more than that,’ and I smiled and said, yes, I felt the same way I just wanted to hear that from him too.”
Right before their first date, this guy would occasionally end one of their phone calls by saying, ‘Love you, girly.’ Or he would say similar things when they were chatting.
She couldn’t help but notice that intense level of affection, but she did not say anything about it to him or bother calling it out. She also thought about how he was still freshly broken up and was considering proposing to that girl, so perhaps it was a slip of the tongue and didn’t exactly mean that he loved her. It might have been that he was so used to saying it to his ex.
“When we met for our first date, it was great. We decided to get intimate and during…some intense eye contact, he said ‘I love you,'” she added.
“I looked surprised, and he did too, and then he stopped and said, ‘Wait, wait, I’m sorry, ughh, I meant I love [sleeping] with you,” and I figured it was just a heat-of-the-moment thing and cupped his face and said, ‘It’s ok, you’re ok,’ and we continued.”
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“After a few hours, we still had a great time and cuddled and had dinner, he said, ‘I feel sparks with you and I’m having a great time, but still want to take things slow,’ and I said I feel the same way.”
She’s left trying to get to the bottom of what this guy is thinking. She would hate to push him away or pry his feelings out of him. He has said a number of things to her so far that have led her to believe he has genuine feelings for her, but she doesn’t want to just sit here and pretend his fresh breakup could be influencing their relationship.
Well, I don’t find this so alarming, and do you know why that is? They’ve spent weeks FaceTiming every night and talking nonstop, so that’s quite a bit different than meeting someone out of the blue, going on a first date with them, and having their feelings leak out.
He very well seems to have developed feelings for her quickly, and throughout the time they have been spending together on the phone, which isn’t problematic.
It’s a green flag that this guy is being respectful and is clearly looking for something serious. And men who show their emotions so easily deserve a round of applause. It sounds like she found a nice guy, and she should run with that!
What advice do you have for her?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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