Chip Chick
#6: They have no interest in your life.
If you make it a point to show genuine interest in their life, but they show no interest in yours, something might be up.
It’s one thing if they are an off day, but if this is a regular occurrence, that is not a good sign.
#7: They don’t desire any 1:1 time.
Friends or partners who use you will want to be close enough to you to be able to ask favors but not so close to you that they have to put any genuine effort into maintaining the relationship.
They can do this by ensuring they never have to be 1:1 with you. So, for example, if you ask them to hang out and they consistently invite others to join in, they can say you guys spend time together, but they can distribute attention amongst the group rather than just with you.
#8: They use you as a middle-man.
If you are a successful friend, you can fall victim to this kind of user. They hit you when they need a reference for work or your help to form a connection with someone you know who can get them something (a promotion, a new job, etc.).
They use you as a stepping stone to climb higher in their own lives. Be wary of friends who only seem to contact you when they need an introduction or help to pursue a specific goal for their betterment only.
#9: They push you to focus on money rather than happiness.
If you have a friend or a partner who pushes you to take any promotion or new job offer solely for the financial gain you will make, they might have an ulterior motive.
