Her Sister Is Pregnant With Her Third Child And Her Husband Is Totally An Absent Parent, So She Told Her Sister She Won’t Keep Playing Dad To Her Kids Anymore
A lot of people know someone who has needed help with raising their kids and nobly stepped in, almost like another parent.
One woman is fed up with her brother-in-law since he hasn’t been there for her sister’s kids as much as she has.
She’s 22-years-old and has an older sister named Iris, who’s 28. Iris is married to her husband, David, and they have two daughters, who are 5 and 7.
David is not a present father. Iris works long hours as a doctor, and David works a 9-5 bank job.
However, he still does not find time to step up to the plate and help Iris with their children. As a result, she’s stepped in a lot to help her sister with her nieces.
“I’ve had to cancel so many plans, trips, etc., to take care of my nieces when my sister was busy,” she explained.
“But David was available. 90% of the time, my sister would call me over to babysit, [and] David would be watching sports or hanging out with his friends. I didn’t have the guts to say anything when I was younger, so I just [kept quiet] about it.”
Whenever she’s encouraged Iris to confront David about his lack of effort, Iris hasn’t been receptive to the idea.
Now, Iris is pregnant with her third baby, and she doesn’t want to continue acting like a parent when she’s only the kids’ aunt.
sepy – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“While I am excited for her, I’m dreading it,” she said. “The two girls are at an age now where it’s gotten a bit easier for me to look after them alone. I can’t imagine having to take care of three.”
She also has a job and won’t be able to help out as much. So, she told Iris it was time to talk to David and get him to help out more.
Iris didn’t see the point in telling David to do better as a father. So when she told Iris that she wouldn’t continue “playing dad” for her kids anymore after seven long years of helping out, Iris got very upset.
Her sister believes David shouldn’t have to help out as much because women are “naturally better” at raising children. Iris said it takes a village to raise a child, and that village is typically comprised of women.
“I said while I’m happy to be her village, I refuse to be a parent to her kids,” she recalled. “She hasn’t spoken to me in a week.”
Is she doing the right thing by stepping away from raising her sister’s kids so their dad can contribute more?
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