She Has The Answer For How To Go About Getting Your Ex Back After You’ve Broken It Off With Them
Sometimes it’s hard to see the right person for you when they’re right in front of you. For anyone who’s ever been in a relationship with someone and been unsure if they were ‘the one’, leaving them and moving on can seem like the best choice in the moment.
While this can be an impulsive decision in order to try to move on quickly from a relationship, sometimes you realize afterward that you’ve made a mistake. What if your ex really was the right person? TikToker Sophie, @deepthinkingal, has the answer for how to go about getting your ex back after you’ve broken it off with them.
“If you’re going through a breakup, or you recently went through a breakup, and you want that person back,” she said. “I know how to do it.”
Now, every relationship is different, and every ex is going to react differently. However, Sophie swears that no matter what your messy breakup situation looks like, her solution will work for you.
“I’d say that this works on most situations; I’ve seen this work on the diciest of situations,” she said. “I like to call this the Exit Plan.”
What exactly does her plan entail? She breaks down her ‘Exit Plan’ into four separate parts that she equates to the ‘No Contact’ plan but with a “modern twist,” she said.
Each stage has a series of ‘to-do’s or specific things not to do in order to make your ex come crawling back to you.
Step one might sound familiar, as it’s the most popular rule that people have when thinking about contacting your ex after a breakup–don’t reach out to them.
“So step one is where it’s very similar to ‘No Contact’,” she said. “Basically, you are not gonna reach out to this sucker. You are not gonna reach out. If you are processing the breakup and waiting to respond to the text, don’t respond.”
Drobot Dean- Stock.Adobe.com, illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Now, not contacting them isn’t just limited to calling, texting, or FaceTiming them. Interacting with them on any kind of social media platform is also forbidden.
“This includes liking photos, it includes liking Instagram stories,” she said. “You’re not gonna like anything of that person’s. You’re not gonna message them in any way, shape, or form.”
Essentially, step one is having absolutely no form of contact with the person. The next step is about disappearing– but only from online platforms.
“You’re not literally disappearing,” Sophie said. “You should still be hanging out with your friends and family–doing all that good stuff–but you are gonna disappear from social media.”
Disappearing from social media means in every kind of way imaginable–absolutely no activity online.
“You’re not gonna post [on] Instagram, you’re not gonna post Facebooks, you’re not gonna post stories, you’re not gonna post on Snapchat,” she said. “Completely disappear from social media.”
This is not to say, however, that having social media accounts isn’t allowed–it is. You just can’t actually be active on them by posting anything. This may all seem so extreme to some. Why take a hiatus from social media at all? Well, the answer lies in the reaction of your ex. It’s the one thing that is going to pique their interest in you again.
“At this point, the other person is going crazy,” she said. “You are two months ahead of them because you are processing it, doing what you love, got that haircut, going to the gym…whatever it is. And they’re just curious where you’re at.”
Honestly, it’s a power trip that you can hold over them. You’re in control of this situation, and although you’re trying to get them back, you are going to control how it happens.
“You’re not begging for them, and then also they’re not seeing anything of you,” she said. “You are valued, and you must be earned.”
All of that is only step two. There are still two more steps to Sophie’s elaborate ‘get your ex back’ plan.
“Next up is the Rebirth,” she said. “This is when you finally do post a photo, and you’re gonna post your best photo.”
Essentially the goal is to make them jealous of your life that you’ve been so glamorously living without them. Post your most beautiful photo or your photo that makes you look like you’re having the time of your life.
“You can kind of imagine it as like your entrance back into the world,” she said.
Now comes the final victory moment in your plan to win your ex back.
“If you’ve made it to the final step, congratulations because it is by far the most fun step–because it’s basically the final say,” she said. “It’s when your ex reaches back out, and you determine whether you want to get back in a relationship with them or you don’t.”
Should you decide to use this method, just know it’s not always going to work out in this order. There’s a chance that you wouldn’t even have to get to step three before your ex reaches out, she explained.
“What you need to determine when your ex does eventually reach out to you is if there’s any value in that message,” she said. “If it’s just a ‘you look really beautiful’ or if it’s just a ‘wow, it’s nice to see you’, no value there.”
Should you decide to employ this method in your own love life, just remember that you want a sincere response from them when they reach out.
“What you’re wanting in this situation is something more along the lines of, ‘Hey, I really miss you, I feel like I messed up, can we please chat about what happened during the breakup’. That has some value to it.”
@deepthinkingal I wish I went to college to be a match maker LOL #EX #boyfriend #girlfriend #reconnect #couples #relationship #relationshipadvice #nocontact
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