She’s Sharing All The Lessons She Has Learned From Dating

Emily Chan |

May 15, 2023

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If you’re new to dating and need some advice, TikToker Danielle Blakey (@dabaaaabyyy) is sharing all the lessons she has learned during her years of going on dates.

“So sit down, buckle up, and let me spit some knowledge in your face so that you can finally understand why he isn’t texting you back,” said Danielle.

Starting off strong, the first bullet point on Danielle’s list of lessons is that you will never get led on by someone who genuinely wants to date you.

Don’t give a guy excuses for not texting you back. Sure, he may have been busy with family, but if he truly liked you, he would’ve communicated with you beforehand that he wouldn’t be on his phone instead of just giving you radio silence.

“If he says he’s a really bad texter, he will call you. A man who likes you will show you through his actions, not just his words,” stated Danielle.

Number two: if a man doesn’t text you to ensure you got home safely after hanging out together, then he’s not the one. Find a new man who will do that.

According to Danielle, the next point on her list might be somewhat controversial, but she’s sharing it anyway. She claims that after a guy meets you, he will place you into one of three categories.

The categories are potential relationships, friends with benefits, or platonic friendships. Remember that your actions will decide which category you will get put into.

Number four: everyone is replaceable. There are a lot of good men out there, so don’t despair! If your boyfriend breaks up with you, you will find another who might treat you even better than your previous one.

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“The words you speak are going to come back to you, so if you’re saying that you’re never going to find anybody else like that, you won’t,” explained Danielle.

The mindset of “everyone is replaceable” also makes dating significantly more fun and helps you see that you’re just one step closer to meeting your perfect match.

Number five: stay away from guys who want to hang out but never make any plans to do so. If he always has an excuse about why he’s too busy, he’s most likely seeing someone else or testing if you’re on his hook.

Number six: stop being available to him 24/7. This may sound harsh, but it makes you look desperate. Don’t wait around for him to text back. Do your own thing instead of operating on his time.

Next, stop posting on your Instagram and take on a more mysterious aura. When you broadcast every activity you’re doing throughout the day, there’s no mystery or intrigue surrounding you.

Danielle advises that the only time you should be posting on your story is when you’re all dressed up for a night out.

And keep the posts to a maximum of three times per week when you’re talking to someone new. They’ll wonder about what you’re doing and come crawling to you in no time.

Finally, don’t let people disrespect you, whether it’s boys, exes, or your friends. If somebody does you wrong, simply turn around and walk away. You are worth more than that and don’t need negative energy in your life.