Her Boyfriend Hugged And Kissed His Ex-Wife While They Were Leaving A Party, And She Isn’t Sure If That Was A Red Flag
This 29-year-old woman and her boyfriend, who is 34, have been together for about a year.
But, before they started dating, her boyfriend was actually previously married and went through his divorce three years ago.
He does still share a few friends with his ex-wife, too, even though they do not really stay in touch.
More recently, however, she and her boyfriend were invited to a party. And it just so happened that his ex-wife was in attendance as well.
Now, after they bumped into each other, her boyfriend did talk to his ex for a little while. Afterward, she and he moved on and joined the rest of the guests at the party.
So, everything was fine for a while until they went to leave later on. At that point, her boyfriend’s ex-wife came to say goodbye to them.
“And instead of just saying it back, my boyfriend pulled her in for a hug and kissed her on the cheek,” she revealed.
It was not any normal hug, either. Instead, she claimed that her boyfriend had his hands around her waist. Plus, his ex-wife’s hands were on his chest, and his ex even let out a tiny laugh.
She was very taken aback by this, too, which was why she asked her boyfriend what that hug and kiss were all about as soon as they returned home.
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But all her boyfriend said was that it just felt good to see his ex after so much time. Plus, he claimed that his ex had always appreciated affection, even just between friends.
“So, I let it go, but I still feel really uncomfortable about it,” she said.
That’s why she recently turned to Reddit for some advice on the uncomfortable situation.
“Do you think he still has feelings for his ex? What would be the real reason he would do that?” she asked.
Most people agreed that it was difficult to tell just from this situation whether or not her boyfriend was still into his ex-wife. However, many commenters pointed out how this kind of greeting is not uncommon in certain cultures.
“I can’t say for sure. A lot of people hug and give cheek kisses to people they don’t romantically like where I’m from,” said Daddy_boy_no2
“This reminds me of when I went to Mexico and met my brother’s friends. One of the girls leaned in to kiss me, and I pulled back so suddenly as I was thinking what the heck? She looked shocked, and then my brother explained to her that we don’t do that in Canada, hence my reaction,” agreed Acuziorain.
Other people pointed out how a simple kiss on the cheek is not the same as if her boyfriend had started making out with his ex.
“I thought he was all over her and French kissing her or something. A Hug and kiss on the cheek seems harmless. Maybe there isn’t any real reason for it, and it’s exactly as he said,” opined Jayjaykmm.
Finally, a bunch of commenters pointed out how just because they are divorced does not mean her boyfriend despises his ex-wife.
“Just because people are divorced doesn’t mean they hate each other and wish the other rot in hell,” said Ladybug_0570.
On top of that, it’s not like her boyfriend tried to do anything in secret with his ex-wife.
“He didn’t hide it. I know you didn’t like it, but I don’t think it really meant anything,” explained Dressercoupling.
“I wouldn’t blow up your relationship over it. As it has been said, people don’t have to hate their exes.”
Still, some commenters claimed that she could set her own boundaries with this type of affection if it really did bother her.
“If this is a no from you, then you should tell him. Tell him how uncomfortable it made you and that you would prefer him to greet her less active in the future,” advised Jayjaykmm.
How would you feel if you were in her shoes? Would your partner interacting with their ex like that make you uncomfortable or not? Do you think that was a red flag or harmless?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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