When you were a kid, did you have to do chores? Everyone was raised differently, and every set of parents has their own beliefs on how many chores their kids should or shouldn’t do.
One woman has had a great chore system for her daughter that she has used for years. But after her boyfriend moved in and his daughter started living with them part-time, he expects her to change it.
She’s 35-years-old and has a nine-year-old daughter. For the past two years, she’s been using a chores and allowance system that works very well for her daughter and teaches her how to be responsible with money.
Every week, her daughter has to complete a small list of mandatory chores that involve making her bed and putting her dirty clothes in the laundry room. Then, there’s a list of more complex and time-consuming tasks for her to complete, like unloading the dishwasher, watering the plants, and folding laundry.
Every week, her daughter has to accomplish three of the more difficult chores, and each one is worth a different amount of money. For example, she gets a dollar anytime she waters the plants and two dollars when she folds laundry.
“She has to pick at least three of the more difficult chores to do per week, but then she can do more if she wants to earn money,” she explained.
“I think this encourages her to prioritize if she wants to save up for something or if she’d rather just play more that week. My kid is responsible, and she usually does more than required and saves her money.”
Recently, her boyfriend moved in with her and her daughter. Her boyfriend has an 11-year-old daughter who stays with them every other weekend. He really admires the chore system she has with her daughter and asked if his daughter could get in on it.
“That’s fine, but she’s there way less often, so my daughter usually gets to most of the chores, especially the stuff that pays more,” she said.
“She also saves a lot, so she usually has a bunch of cash stashed in her room. This makes my boyfriend’s daughter jealous and sad.”
Now, her boyfriend is asking if he could limit the number of chores her daughter can do at their house for money each week so that his daughter can have a turn and earn some for herself. She told him no and that instead, he could make his own chore list for his daughter, even though there was not much left to do in the house.
She didn’t think cutting her daughter off from doing chores and earning money would be fair since she lives at home full-time. They’ve been used to this routine for years now, and she doesn’t want to change things up.
She believes her boyfriend’s ex should implement the chore system at her house since that’s where his daughter lives most of the time.
“I think her own mother can have a chore system at her house if she wants,” she added.
“But, she struggles financially and can’t really afford any kind of allowance. I don’t think that’s really my problem.”
Is she rude for not changing the chore system at her house, or is she doing what’s right for her daughter?
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