Her Parents Are Trying To Make Her Settle For The College Her Twin Sister Will Be Going To So She Can Help Her Sister Out
Have you ever felt forced to attend a certain college because someone important to you was going there?
One teenager’s parents recently told her she should settle for the college her twin sister will be attending so she can be around to help her sister out.
She and her twin sister will be graduating from high school next year. They’ve been talking to their parents about what they want to do and where they want to go to college. She definitely has things more figured out than her sister.
“I have very clear goals of where I want to go to college and what I want to do,” she said.
“I have stellar grades and test scores, and my dream school is an Ivy that I think I can get into with good aid.”
Additionally, she already knows what she wants to major in and has been making these plans since the beginning of high school.
On the other hand, her sister is not very passionate about school and doesn’t know what she wants to do or where she wants to go.
While she’s not flunking out of school, she’s not excelling. Her twin also had fairly low college entrance test scores and won’t be able to get into the same schools as her.
“I worry that she’s not going to get any good scholarships and will have to rely solely on financial aid and student loans,” she explained.
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“To clarify, I’m not trying to judge her or say that I’m better than her. [It’s] just that we have very different visions for our futures.”
“However, the issue is that when I brought up the conversation of what colleges I wanted to apply to, my parents shut me down when I mentioned the Ivy being my top school.”
She was confused about why her parents would discourage her from attending her dream ivy league school.
Then, they told her that they wanted her to attend whatever school her twin sister would so she could watch out for her.
Her parents are also worried about tuition since they don’t have any money put away for either of them.
She’s feeling very frustrated, as her parents have told her she needs to motivate and encourage her sister for years.
While she understands why she needs motivation, she always avoided discussing school with her sister because she never wanted to sound like she was bragging.
Her parents also told her that she should go to a different school and look after her sister for the sake of her mom, who sacrificed a lot to raise them. Her mom worries about the two of them making it through their college years alright.
“I’m conflicted because while I don’t want to leave my sister behind to struggle, I also feel that it’s unfair for me to have [to] sacrifice,” she added.
“I feel like I’ve already spent my whole life giving up things that will help me set up my future in order to not burden my parents.”
Now, she’s debating whether or not she should ignore her parent’s advice and go to the school of her choice through financial aid or listen to them and help her sister.
What would you do if you were in her position?
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