She’s Sharing Her Rules When It Comes To Friendships, Along With At What Point She Will Cut Someone Out of Her Life
Toxic relationships, whether it’s with a friend, family member, or significant other, can definitely be an exhausting area of your life.
While it can be difficult to cut ties with someone, sometimes it is absolutely necessary in order for you to be a happier person.
When you’re dating someone, there should be high expectations for how they treat you and how much effort they put into the relationship. But when it comes to our friendships, how much should we really be expecting out of them?
TikTok user Elle Ray (@manifestelle) shares her rules when it comes to friendships and at what point she will cut someone out of her life, but her words of advice are sparking up a debate in her comments.
In her video, Elle claims that the ‘taking turns’ method that she has implemented in her friendships is one of the best things she ever did for herself.
She has let her friends and any new potential friends in on this system so that they know what she now expects.
“Basically, if I ask you out, the next time you have to ask me out, I will not be reaching out again to ask you out if I did it last time,” she explains.
Elle says that if she asks a friend out and they decline for whatever reason, then it’s not a problem at all.
However, it is then her friend’s turn to ask to hang out again. If they don’t reach out, then she will just leave things alone until they do.
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“Sometimes our expectations for the men we date are much higher than the expectations that we have for girlfriends. When your expectations have to be high all around,” Elle says.
She goes on to explain another scenario in which her system applies. If she invites a friend to her birthday party and they either can’t make it for a silly reason or say they will be there and don’t show up, then she will choose not to attend their birthday party either.
“People think that’s petty, but if you’re a high-value woman, you have choices. I have a lot of girlfriends, so if you’re not going to be a good girlfriend to me, I will not be a girlfriend to you, period,” she states.
Elle explains that if someone is not willing to follow her friendship rules, then they are better off as her acquaintance rather than a friend.
While some of her viewers agree with her take on holding people accountable in their friendships with you, other people believe the rules she has are too much to expect out of a friend 24/7.
“People go through different seasons and different things, and you can’t always expect this. Be friends for their personality and love them,” one commenter says.
“I see how this may work for some, but nah. If I have the idea to go somewhere, I’ll ask every time. It’s okay if you can’t go. I’m not keeping tabs,” another commenter shares.
What do you think about Elle’s advice? What is the key to managing your friendships?
https://www.tiktok.com/@manifestelle/video/7213510488343219498?_r=1&_t=8drMkc4ywoA
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