He Laughed Out Loud In His Wife’s Face When She Brought Up Her Retirement Plan, Because She’s Struggled To Hold Down A Job Throughout Their Marriage
When you’re in a relationship and find yourself working a lot harder than the other person, it can be really frustrating.
One man recently had an outburst with his wife, who has struggled to hold down a consistent job throughout their marriage.
He and his wife have been married for 16 years. They met in college and got married before they graduated. He dropped out of school after finding out she was pregnant so he could work full-time, and she stayed enrolled until she was about seven months along.
After they began having children, they came to an agreement that his wife would be a stay-at-home mom until their kids were old enough to spend most of the day at school. Then, she would be able to return to work.
Now, their youngest child has been going to school for the last six years, and his wife has struggled to commit to a career path.
“She has been back to school four times for different things each time and has worked maybe one year [out] of the 16 years we’ve been married,” he explained.
“I’ve supported everything she wanted to do. She’s had multiple [multilevel marketing], craft-making, and business ventures with friends over this time period, and she doesn’t stay with any of them for more than a year, at most.”
His wife’s work struggles have been frustrating him for a long time, especially because since she first became pregnant, he’s worked extremely hard and advanced to higher-paying jobs to keep their family afloat. He’s even returned to school and received his bachelor’s and master’s degrees.
Over the last few years, his frustrations with his wife have built up. Since the kids have been in school, she’s only taken around three substitute teacher gigs in the last year. Other than that, she spends most of her time at home.
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“While I’ve been doing everything I can to build us up, I feel like she’s been doing nothing but drag us down,” he said.
“She always says she’s going to get a job, but she does nothing at home either. She’s supposed to be taking classes now to be a teacher, but she doesn’t.”
The other day, he had a bit of an outburst when his wife opened up a letter about teacher retirement plans in the mail. She asked him to help her figure out what she should do for her retirement plan, and he laughed out loud in her face. He told her that she has to actually have a job before she can retire.
His wife became upset and said he wasn’t being funny. But in that moment, he thought he was.
He thinks he should have a more serious conversation with his wife to break down how he feels about their situation. With her being at home, it feels as if they’ve hired a full-time nanny and housekeeper who aren’t good at their jobs, as the house is always messy, and there’s not much effort going into their meals.
Now, he’s wondering if that would be too harsh to say.
At this point, should he be completely honest with his wife or try to get her working more gently?
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