Her Mom Flipped Out When She Said She Doesn’t Want To Invite Their Entire Family To Her Future Wedding
For four and a half years, this 29-year-old woman has been dating her boyfriend, 29, and they have a 10-month-old son together.
Through the last few years, she and her boyfriend have discussed getting married, and they have been steadily making wedding plans over time.
When she was 7-years-old, her mother got married, and she never had a strong bond with her stepfather.
“I love his family, and as a child, they always included me. However, once I was a teenager until now, they haven’t really reached out for anything, and I haven’t either (which I admit I could work on), and I see them once every couple of years at most,” she said.
At 18-years-old, she learned that her mother had cheated on her father with her stepfather. However, to this day, her mother doesn’t know that she’s aware of this.
While she was talking with her mother, she mentioned that she and her boyfriend were hoping to have a small ceremony when they get married so that just she, her partner, and their close friends and family could experience the special day.
When her mother heard this, she lost it and said that she didn’t believe that was what she truly wanted for her wedding. Then, her mother told her that she had to invite the entire family.
“I have my mom’s side, my dad’s side, and stepdad’s side; each of those grandparents had 12 kids, of which they each have about an average of five kids themselves. So, my family is HUGE,” she explained.
In response, she said that her mother could help with some of the wedding expenses so that she could invite their whole family.
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In her view, it didn’t make sense to invite so many family members whom she hadn’t even seen in several years, and a lot of these people hadn’t made an effort to meet her son or reach out to her to catch up.
“She just comes back with, ‘I’m sure your dad will help.’ My dad would love to help, and he spoils our son so much, but growing up, my dad STRUGGLED. Also, my mom weaponized me against him, and as I’ve gotten older, my dad and I have grown EVEN closer,” she shared.
In her view, it’s unfair to ask her father to chip in for her wedding just so that she can invite more people that she hadn’t wanted to invite in the first place.
An alternative could be to allow more people to attend the wedding reception. But she still doesn’t see the appeal of inviting so many guests that she doesn’t have close relationships with for one of the most important days of her and her partner’s lives.
What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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