He’s Refusing To Give His Friend A Plus One For His Wedding Because His Friend’s Long-Term Girlfriend Is His Ex-Girlfriend From High School
This 24-year-old guy and his fiancée, who is also 24, have been planning the guest list for their wedding. But, they recently got into an argument about one specific person.
Apparently, they both have a guy friend who is on the invite list, but he really doesn’t want to give that particular friend a plus one. Why? Well, his friend’s long-term girlfriend is actually his ex-girlfriend from high school.
Back when they were teens, he and his ex dated for a little while during their senior year. And the relationship did not end amicably.
“My ex was very jealous and insecure about one of my female friends, and she would get mad over small things,” he recalled.
So, they ultimately split up and just became friends with benefits before leaving for college in the summer.
He realizes that his ex probably hooked up with other people during that time, too, just as he did. Nonetheless, they stopped speaking once they left for college, and he just does not feel comfortable with the idea of having his ex at his wedding.
He tried to tell his fiancée this, too, but to his surprise, she didn’t really agree with him.
His fiancée pointed out how he has no idea what his ex is like anymore since they haven’t spoken in years. Instead, all he knows is what he hears from their guy friend.
“I get what she is saying, but my ex is also just kind of off-putting and, well, weird,” he explained.
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Apparently, his ex was always a bit more “alternative” and has tattoos, piercings, etc.
His fiancée still didn’t care, though, and pointed out how their friend would likely ask to get a plus-one anyway due to their long-term relationship.
So, while he believes that his ex will understand the lack of an invite, his fiancée thinks it would be really rude to exclude their friend’s partner from the event.
“My fiancée has met my ex once or twice and said she’d been pleasant both times,” he admitted.
“But that was very early in our relationship, and I wasn’t around when they met.”
Anyway, their opposing opinions caused him and his fiancée to get into an argument. Then, his fiancée eventually claimed that they didn’t need to invite his ex but that he would have to be the person who explained to their friend why he was not getting a plus one.
“If it was anyone else my friend was dating, it would be fine, but just not her,” he reasoned.
Still, with his fiancée giving him so much pushback, he’s now wondering whether refusing to invite his friend’s long-term girlfriend to his nuptials really makes him a jerk or not.
Can you understand why he doesn’t want an ex at his wedding? At the same time, does his fiancée have a point about so many years passing by? How do you think his friend will feel about not being able to bring their long-term girlfriend? How would you handle this?
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