Her Husband Didn’t Want Her Family To Be At Their Apartment For Her Birthday Party, So She Refused To Have Her In-Laws Over For Cake
Not too long ago, this woman celebrated her 40th birthday.
She wanted to host a large party of about 30 or 35 of her friends and family members at her apartment that she and her husband share.
Luckily, they have a ton of space in their apartment, which is perfect for get-togethers with a lot of people.
Since some of her family, who live in the same city, come over to their apartment a lot because they have so much room, she didn’t think this party would be a big deal.
But it definitely would be quite a few more people over at once than she and her husband are used to.
Understandably, she wanted to have a huge celebration for such a monumental birthday.
“However, when I mentioned my plans to my husband, he seemed quite irritated. He later explained that he felt my family was often at our place, while we weren’t invited to their homes as frequently,” she said.
This has some truth to it, but she and her husband host her family at their apartment mainly because they have a larger space to do so.
She is the oldest, and she has three siblings. About half of the family gatherings are at her and her husband’s apartment, while the other half are held at either her mother’s or her siblings’ houses.
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In response to her husband’s frustration, she came up with the idea of catering food for the party and giving their cleaning lady, who works for them twice per week, another shift for that week. That way, they wouldn’t have to worry about those potential stressors.
Unfortunately, none of this seemed to make her husband feel any better. He was still annoyed and kept complaining about how he was sick of always having her family over to their apartment.
“I was hurt by his reaction. Without revealing my husband’s reasons, I spoke to my mom about possibly hosting the party at her place instead, to which she agreed. However, my sister had already booked a restaurant with a private room as a surprise (though I found out in advance,” she explained.
Because all of her party guests had agreed that they would all meet at the restaurant, she thought that this plan would work out perfectly.
Then, her husband’s family, who live an hour away, said that they wanted to eat cake at her and her husband’s apartment after dinner at the restaurant.
Without consulting her, he told his parents that this would work, but she was upset and said she didn’t want to have his parents over after her birthday dinner.
This turned into a fight, and her husband claimed that it was a different situation with his parents because they don’t come over as frequently as her family does.
Plus, he would have felt terrible rejecting his parents’ offer since they were taking the time to come to her party.
“I’m conflicted and angry about this situation. He easily said no to my family, who adore him and were planning a surprise party that they’d already paid for. However, he can’t say no to his family, who are essentially guests at this point,” she shared.
She would be willing to eat cake at the restaurant after dinner since a lot of restaurants allow patrons to bring in their own cakes for celebratory meals.
Now, she feels bad because she doesn’t blame her husband’s parents at all, and she doesn’t want to hurt their feelings and reject their offer of having cake at her apartment.
At the same time, she feels irritated with the whole situation. Her sister already reserved a table at the restaurant and spent money on the party, but if she hadn’t, she would have wanted to cancel the party entirely because of all the stress.
What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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