She Recently Suggested That Her Female Friend, Who Stopped Shaving To “Protest The Patriarchy,” Should Start Shaving To Have More Successful Dates, And Her Friend Got Super Offended
Have you ever made a suggestion to a friend that you thought would help them but ended up offending them?
One woman recently suggested that her friend shave more in order to go on more successful dates, and it caused some drama.
She’s 29 years old and has a 32-year-old friend named Emily. Emily has been a great friend to her, and she loves her fun and adventurous personality.
A few years ago, Emily decided to stop shaving her body hair from her arms to her legs in a “protest to the patriarchy.” Now, she has long hair all over her body.
“A few days ago, we were having a beer, and she told me how sad her dating life was, that she kept meeting guys and having very fun dates but never got a call back,” she said.
“Or, when she tried asking for a second or third date, [she] got rejected in a very generic manner.”
For a long time, she’s been telling Emily that she’s gorgeous and the right guy will come along. This time, she decided to go out on a limb and see if she could give her a bit of constructive advice.
She told Emily, “I know this is a very superficial thing to say, but do you think it might help a little if you would shave?”
Emily was very taken aback and became disappointed that she suggested she change something about herself for a man and that her mentality was the reason why so many women feel oppressed.
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She immediately apologized, but after that interaction, the night was ruined, and there was a lot of tension between the two of them. She tried reaching out to Emily the next day to apologize again, but she was ignored.
Finally, a few days later, she was able to get on the phone with Emily, and they talked through everything. She learned that she should’ve taken better cues from Emily that night before giving her an unsolicited opinion. Emily apologized for her reaction as well.
“She told me I had always been a loyal friend who had her back, and she always had valued my advice, which was why she was so taken aback by my comment,” she recalled.
“I told her that what I should have said is that I feel like, in the past, she has been attracted to men who don’t necessarily share her values and that she might need to be more clear with her dating choices and first make sure they align with her values to avoid being disappointed.”
Have you ever found yourself in a situation like this?
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