She Found Out That Her Best Friend Had A Crush On Her Boyfriend After Her Friend Drunkenly Flirted With Him, So She Cut Off Their Friendship
Over the past six months, this woman has been struggling to cope with the fact that her best friend of seven years, Caitlin, had romantic feelings for her boyfriend, Mike.
When she discovered this, she and Mike had been dating for a year.
Since Caitlin didn’t have a lot of other friends, she often hung out with her and Mike. She didn’t mind this at all, and each week that she and Mike would get together, she’d invite Caitlin to tag along.
Caitlin and Mike got along well, so she thought this worked out perfectly so that the three of them were able to hang out together. She was thrilled that her best friend approved of her boyfriend and thought that he was a good person.
But six months ago, things took a turn for the worse.
She and a group of about 10 of her friends, including Mike and Caitlin, all went out for the night.
Normally, Caitlin only has one or two drinks and not any more than that.
However, on this particular night, Caitlin got extremely intoxicated.
“During the night, as she got drunker, she started getting overly flirty with Mike– touching his arms and back every chance she had, making flirty jokes, and looking at him with what I like to call ‘come-hither’ eyes,” she said.
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Because she’s been close friends with Caitlin for so long, she obviously knows how she behaves when she has a crush on someone, and this is it.
Understandably, she was stunned and didn’t know what to do.
Later on in the night, she asked Mike what was going on with Caitlin, and he said that he had no clue.
Then, he wondered if they should go home early, and she thought this was a good idea.
At this point, she was pretty drunk and was getting angrier by the second because of Caitlin’s behavior. She knew that if she and Mike stayed out drinking, she would have ended up causing a scene.
So, she and Mike bid farewell to their group while Caitlin was in the bathroom, and they left.
“The next day, I texted Caitlin and said, ‘What was that last night?’ She said she was so sorry and it was better to talk about it in person. We met up in a pretty empty coffee shop later that day, and, long story short, she basically told me she had had a crush on my boyfriend since the first time I met him. I felt so many emotions–rage, betrayal, sadness, confusion,” she explained.
As Caitlin explained how she felt about Mike, she couldn’t understand how this was possible. She couldn’t believe that her best friend of seven years was telling her this.
Once Caitlin finished talking, she couldn’t say a word and just sat there in shock.
“After an awkward silence, Caitlin, in a shaking voice, uttered, ‘Please say something,’ and I replied, ‘I don’t want to talk to you right now,’ and left abruptly. I really could not come up with a better response. I mean, how are you even supposed to react when you hear something like this? I went home, and my mind was spiraling out of control, imagining the worst scenarios. Did they have something going on already? Did Caitlin only hang out with us to get closer to Mike? Did Mike have feelings for her, too? I was literally going crazy,” she shared.
After Caitlin’s confession, she confronted Mike about the situation to make sure that he didn’t reciprocate Caitlin’s romantic feelings.
In response, Mike said that he hadn’t done anything at all with Caitlin and didn’t share her feelings, but he’d always had a sneaking suspicion that she was crushing on him. However, he didn’t voice his thoughts because he didn’t want to cause any tension.
For the next week, she didn’t speak to Caitlin despite Caitlin trying her best to reach her.
After that, she was emotionally ready to talk with her, but their discussion didn’t go well. Neither of them came to any common ground, and they didn’t resolve anything, sadly.
Once the cat was out of the bag, she knew that her friendship with Caitlin could never be the way it was before. She could no longer trust Caitlin and didn’t think that trust could be rebuilt.
While she acknowledged that we can’t help who we have crushes on, she believes that we do have conscious control of how we react to those feelings and whether or not we choose to act on them at all.
Keeping all of this in mind, she couldn’t move on from the fact that Caitlin publicly and purposely flirted with Mike while she and all their friends were around. Even though Caitlin was intoxicated at the time, it doesn’t absolve her of her actions.
Plus, she couldn’t stop wondering if things would have been worse if she hadn’t been there and if Mike had also been intoxicated.
After she reached an impasse with Caitlin, she ultimately decided to end their friendship. In total, she estimated that Caitlin probably apologized what felt like about a thousand times, but it didn’t change her mind.
For her, their friendship could never be the same anymore. Whenever she’d look at Caitlin, her crush on Mike would always be in the back of her head.
But once in a while, she wonders if she blew things out of proportion.
Three months after all the drama with Caitlin, she and Mike ended their relationship. While they didn’t break up only because of this issue, it was partially to blame.
Since she felt slighted due to Caitlin’s flirting with Mike, she became admittedly “paranoid and extremely jealous,” which contributed to their choice to break up, and she knows that it was her fault that things went sour with Mike.
Now, she’s still devastated that such an enduring and wonderful friendship ended, and she doesn’t know if she was wrong to end it.
Do you think she did the right thing by ending her friendship with Caitlin?
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