He Doesn’t Think His Wife Really Cares About Him Because He Has Stage IV Cancer And Was Treated Badly By An Old Doctor, But She Just Accused Him Of Being Critical
This man tragically has stage IV cancer, and he is bound to a wheelchair as he goes through the end of his life.
At the beginning of January, he was being treated at a reputable cancer clinic. During his time going to this clinic, he informed the doctor that he had a new tumor on his leg that needed to be looked at.
“Time is of the essence, and the doctor tells me verbatim, ‘We will concurrently work on starting a chemo treatment and clinical trials.’ We are in discussions and testing about a clinical trial,” he said.
During the final stages of testing, he was told that they would let him know by Tuesday whether or not he was accepted as a candidate for the clinical trial.
He heard nothing by Tuesday, and on Friday, he called to find out what was going on. Unfortunately, he was not accepted to participate in the clinical trial, and when he inquired about whether he could start chemotherapy, he was assured that they could start doing so.
At the time, it was already late February, so two had gone by without any chemotherapy treatment.
He was furious that so many weeks had passed without receiving chemo. Rightfully, he didn’t trust this medical team at all.
“I start treatment at another clinic, and on the initial visit, the new doctor is referencing new tumors from scans done for the clinical trials. I had no idea. Tumors near my lungs and in my spine, C2,” he explained.
Even though his doctor at the other clinic had ordered these scans a month ago, this previous doctor hadn’t informed him of any of this serious information.
Drazen – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Understandably, this was another reason why he lost respect for the first clinic he went to. Not long ago, a staff member from the new clinic was treating him at his house. He told this employee how terrible his experience was at his previous cancer clinic. He didn’t say too much and only vented for about half a minute.
“Yesterday, in an argument, my wife called me critical and cited that conversation as proof. I am hurt. I am fully convinced the old doctor has taken years of my life and is the reason I am in a wheelchair now,” he shared.
He acknowledged that some of the treatments the medical team did at this old clinic were successful in killing some of the tumors and slowing the growth of others.
However, the tumor in his leg (the tumor he’d informed his old doctor about) is massive and has negatively affected his nerves. Because of this, he has no control over this leg.
In his view, his old doctor taking two months to do anything at all is why the tumor on his leg is as massive as it is.
After what he’s gone through, he admitted that he detests this doctor, talks poorly about him, and doesn’t think he’s being overly judgmental. From his perspective, it only makes sense that he criticizes this doctor.
During their conversations, his wife has doubled down on her opinion, and he can’t help but feel like she is ignoring his awful experience.
For him, it feels as if his wife is saying that even though he can’t use his leg because of the tumor and now will have a shorter life, he should make sure to mention the positive work his doctor did.
Now, he’s concerned about how little his wife seems to care about his suffering.
What advice would you give him?
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