Her Boyfriend Doesn’t Feel Safe Around Her Dog And Is Making Her Choose Between Him And Her Pup, And She Wants To Pick Her Dog
This 31-year-old woman has been in a relationship with her boyfriend, 43, for the last three years.
When she met her boyfriend, she had owned her rescue dog for a year. Like most dogs, she has had to put in a lot of work with training, and her dog misbehaves sometimes.
He goes through the garbage once in a while, but she makes sure to keep a strict routine and that he gets a ton of exercise so that his antics are kept to a minimum.
Six months ago, her boyfriend moved in with her and her dog. Her boyfriend told her that he was hoping that she would think about re-homing her dog. His reasoning was that he wasn’t a fan of her dog’s misbehavior.
“He also feels like the dog had been growling at him (I have not witnessed this, and sometimes the dog chooses to lay next to him on the couch),” she said.
She told him that she would rather start looking into dog training before she would rush to re-homing her dog.
Over the last several months, she has worked hard to train her dog, but the focus had previously been on other problems that have luckily been fixed.
Unfortunately, her boyfriend isn’t on board with the idea of trying more dog training because he doesn’t believe it would be effective.
“His attitude around the dog has completely changed. I tried explaining that if he acts angry and standoffish toward him all the time, the dog will notice, and that can affect his behavior toward my boyfriend. My boyfriend is saying now that he doesn’t feel safe around him,” she explained.
ksuksa – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual dog
During these conversations, her boyfriend has said that it upsets him that she would possibly dump him rather than re-home her dog.
He also told her that he doesn’t feel secure with their relationship because of this issue. Now, she and her boyfriend have been arguing over other unrelated problems as well, more than they ever have before in their relationship so far.
From her perspective, her boyfriend isn’t taking her values or feelings into account. She would only re-home a pet as a last resort, and she wants to do everything she possibly could to avoid it.
The only way she could see herself re-homing a dog was if she had looked into every other alternative.
“He has a history of aggression toward other dogs. I feel my boyfriend is being unfair in making me choose like this without even being open to trying a trainer. We did have a trainer come to the house once since my boyfriend moved in to try and help with his separation anxiety,” she shared.
However, she had to plead with her boyfriend to be there for the session with the dog trainer, and she wasn’t even sure if he’d show up until about an hour before the scheduled appointment with the trainer.
After this session, she told her boyfriend that they needed to continue scheduling dog training sessions, and she needed to know what times would work for him so that both of them were available and home for the sessions.
Sadly, he has always been apathetic about the dog training, and he has constantly whined that she seems to care more about her dog than him.
What advice would you give her?
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