Her Boyfriend Told Her She’s Not A “Real Woman” Since He Needs Someone Who Will Want To Clean And Cook For Him Every Day
This 37-year-old woman has been in a relationship with her 39-year-old boyfriend for the last three years, and a year ago, they moved in together.
Before they made such a big move in their relationship, they did talk about getting married, splitting bills, and who would be cooking as well as cleaning.
Back then, it truly seemed like they agreed upon everything. Then, five months ago, they really started struggling, and they had a ton of problems and fights.
She did some soul-searching and outlined the issues she had that were contributing to the tough spots in their relationship, and she resolved to make personal changes.
She has worked a lot on herself in the past couple of months so that she could improve her relationship, and it’s helped.
But then, a few evenings ago, things took a turn for the worse.
“Last night, he told me he can’t stand me, I’m crazy, I don’t cook, and I don’t clean,” she explained.
“I work a full-time job just like he does. I have a teenage daughter from a previous marriage. He gets home from work at 4 pm, and I get home at 7:30. Monday and Friday, I work from home and always prepare dinner on those days.”
“I also pack his lunch and breakfast for the next day throughout the entire week. I do all the cleaning that I can (he does none other than clean his and his 15-year-old son’s dishes).”
AnnaHar – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
She’s the one who purchases the majority of their groceries, and she and her daughter keep the house as clean as possible.
Her boyfriend and her boyfriend’s son don’t help out with chores around the house. Now, as for the bills, they split the rent and electricity, and they make around the same amount of money.
So, it’s easy to see why she was confused when her boyfriend said she doesn’t clean or cook because clearly, she does.
The morning after her boyfriend threw accusations at her, he sent her a text saying she’s ungrateful even though he does so much for her. And it only spiraled from there.
“He said I’m not a real woman and that he needs a woman who will wake up to serve her man and cook and clean,” she said.
“I’m so disgusted. I feel used and taken advantage of and, most of all, unappreciated. I’ve brought up marriage a couple of times over the last few months, as it’s around the time we agreed we would start to think about it… but he will say things like, “Women expect a man to marry them but don’t do what they need around the house” or “You expect me to marry you like this?”
“I’m looking for advice. Is this salvageable? Is there anything I can say to make him realize how he’s acting? That he’s being unfair? To appreciate me?”
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