Her Stepmom Was Her Mom’s Best Friend And Carried Out An Affair With Her Dad, But Now That She’s Terminally Ill, She Doesn’t Want To Help Take Care Of Her
This woman’s dad passed away seven years ago, and she has not seen her stepmom since his passing.
She does have two half-siblings who are 15 and 16, and she rarely contacts them. She has had complicated pasts with her half-siblings, and she despises her stepmom.
Her stepmom’s brother recently reached out to her to say her stepmom is terminally ill and needs someone to step up to take care of her.
He also mentioned her half-siblings shouldn’t be burdened with the care, and he is in a different state, so he can’t help. Her stepmom has approximately less than a year left to live.
Her stepmom’s brother believes she should step up to the plate and care for her stepmom since she was in her life for years, and if she refuses, it will permanently destroy her relationship with her half-siblings.
Now, her stepmom was best friends with her mom, and before her mom passed away, her stepmom had an affair with her dad.
She actually overheard the fight that occurred when her mom discovered the truth about the affair.
After her mom passed away, her stepmom made a complete scene at her mom’s funeral and insulted her mom’s entire family for trying to tell her she wasn’t welcome there.
“She tried to say as my future stepmother and my mom’s closest friend she would always have a place,” she explained.
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“I called her names that day. She told me I would regret it one day. That day has never come. But she did revel in telling me all my mom’s flaws after she and my dad married. I never saw Dad the same way, either. But he refused to let the relationship go completely and did his best to maintain contact once I left his house. He died when I was 20.”
So, back to the conversation with her stepmom’s brother, she told him she would never, ever care for her stepmom.
The reality is she has no interest in making her stepmom’s end of life easier, as her stepmom didn’t help her mom have an easier time as she neared the end of her life.
Her stepmom caused her mom a lot of pain prior to her passing, so why should she help at all?
Her half-siblings have since heard about her declining to help care for her stepmom, and they are very upset.
“My half-siblings called me and told me their mom was asking for me, and they were scared and wanted me to be there at the end,” she said.
“They said she needs someone to help her, and they can only do so much with school that they hate leaving her alone. I told them I was sorry, and I knew what it was like to watch your mom slowly fade, but that I was not the one to do it. My half-brother asked if I didn’t love her at all after all this time. I said no. He told me to stay…away then and from them as well.”
“My father’s sister heard about all that happened, and she told me I should be more mature than that and I should be more loving and compassionate to my half-siblings. She told me I should love them more than I hate their mom and agree to care for her to make their next year a lot less stressful. When I refused, she called me a cruel and selfish person, and she told me I was behaving like the very person I hated the most.”
She’s left wondering if she is wrong in not wanting to be the bigger person.
What do you think?
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