He’s Refusing To Help Care For His Parents In Their Old Age If They Continue Allowing His Brother To Mooch Off Of Them
Recently, this 34-year-old man’s parents informed him that they wanted to have a conversation about their plans for what they want to do as they get older.
His parents will be 60 soon, so they told him that they were looking to plan out what their arrangements would be years down the line.
They said that they were planning for him to contribute money and spend his time caring for them.
According to his parents, it was his obligation as their son to do so.
In response to this, he said that he wouldn’t be helping them financially or in any other way as long as they kept allowing his brother to take advantage of them in every way possible.
He and his brother are only 13 months apart.
While he works and doesn’t need to ask his parents for financial help, his brother is not the same.
“He doesn’t work, hasn’t pursued any form of education or training, and he doesn’t do chores or contribute to the household. My parents do absolutely everything for him,” he said.
Obviously, his brother is totally fine with this because it means that he can do what he wants without having to take on any real responsibilities.
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Their parents give money to his brother, and his brother doesn’t even have to be concerned about doing his own laundry or cleaning up his own messes.
His brother is able to do whatever he feels, whenever he wants, without having to stress about household chores or other daily tasks that the majority of adults have to do.
“This would work if my parents were wealthy, but they aren’t. There is nothing stopping my brother from supporting himself. It would be understandable if my brother was disabled or had a medical condition, but he doesn’t. He is an able-bodied adult who has no reason not to work besides my parents enabling him,” he explained.
Meanwhile, he hasn’t lived with his parents, nor have his parents given him money, since the week after he turned 18.
In his view, his parents would never let him take advantage of him the way they allow his brother to.
It’s not as if it’s common in their culture for adult children to continue living at home and not have jobs.
Neither of his parents continued living at home after turning 18, either.
“My parents said they are expecting me to assist them because there is no one else. Besides my brother, the only other relatives are all my grandparents,” he shared.
After he told his parents that he wouldn’t be helping them if they continued allowing his brother to mooch off of them, they were angry with him.
They have since proceeded to attempt pressuring and guilting him into changing his mind.
Now, he doesn’t know whether he was wrong for refusing to help them in their old age because he did acknowledge that it’s true he is their son, so it makes sense that they would want him to support them.
But at the same time, families aren’t always straightforward and often have tension and problems, and his family is no different.
What would you do if you were in his shoes?
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