Her Stepsister’s Furious That She Didn’t Push Her Son To Accept His Stepsiblings As Family
It’s no secret that step-sibling relationships can be complicated, and not everyone has an easy time adjusting to them.
One woman recently gave her stepsister’s son some advice on having a step-sibling that she did not approve of.
She’s 26-years-old and lost her dad when she was seven. Two years later, her mom remarried her stepdad, who had a daughter from a previous marriage five years older than her.
“We had very different experiences with the whole blending of the families,’ she explained.
“I didn’t really want it to happen and wasn’t exactly looking to make them my new dad and sister. They never really became that, but I have accepted that they are family. With my stepsister, her mom chose not to be in her life, and she always longed for a family where she had a mom and maybe some siblings.”
Since she and her stepsister always had different views of their family, they never deeply bonded. However, as the years passed, things remained amicable, and they stayed in touch.
When her stepsister was 20, she married and had a son. Unfortunately, her husband passed away two years ago. Her stepsister’s son is currently 9-years-old. Now, her stepsister has met a new man with three young kids from a previous marriage.
While her stepsister wants this new man to move in with them, her son isn’t very enthusiastic about it and hasn’t been bonding with his kids.
“So, she decided I needed to talk to him as someone who also lost [their] dad,” she recalled.
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“She said the adult me could give him a more mature insight into everything. I told her I would talk to him, but I would not read from a script. She told me to just be honest. I did talk to her son [and] assured him that how he was feeling was okay and that I had felt the same way.”
She explained to her stepsister’s son that while her feelings about her family growing up never really changed, she learned how to soften up to the idea of having a stepsister and stepfather and find ways to keep things civil, even if she didn’t feel as close to them as she would if they were blood relatives.
Her stepsister’s son confided in her and told her he didn’t feel the way about his potential step-siblings that his mom wanted him to, which she understood. He seemed to really appreciate her advice, and she figured everything was okay.
Unfortunately, it wasn’t.
“A couple of days later, she was calling to curse me out and was saying I didn’t help her like I had said I would,” she added.
“She told me her son was more sure now that he didn’t want to try and be a family with them, and she told me I was so selfish to ruin her life.”
She tried telling her stepsister she only had her son’s best interests in mind, but she wasn’t having it.
Did she do anything wrong by giving honest advice to her stepsister’s son?
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