His Girlfriend’s Best Friend Moved In With Them About A Month Ago, And Now He Actually Wants To Dump His Girlfriend And Start A Relationship With Her Friend
A bit over a month ago, this 29-year-old man and his girlfriend, Kristen, 28, were living together, and Kristen asked her best friend, Olivia, 29, to move in with them for the time being.
Unfortunately, Olivia had just lost her job, and she wasn’t thrilled with the idea of moving in with her parents, so Kristen thought that offering for her to live with them would be a good alternative.
At first, he was annoyed with this idea because Kristen invited Olivia to stay with them without asking him first if it was okay with him.
At the time, he was the one paying the vast majority of their monthly bills. He was concerned that Olivia moving in would dramatically raise their expenses.
He’s been paying about 90% of their bills, including rent, utilities, and for their groceries. It’s been this way ever since Kristen moved in with him in June.
Kristen has high student loan payments to worry about, but he does, too. Since he’s been paying nearly all of their bills each month, it’s been tough to pay them off when most of his money is going toward other expenses.
“She gave me the whole sob story of how Olivia is her best friend and how she’d be helpful to us. This wore me down, and soon enough, Olivia was here living with us,” he said.
As predicted, he was the one responsible for paying the extra costs associated with another person living with them, and Kristen didn’t chip in at all, even though she didn’t consult him before telling Olivia that she could move in with them.
Two weeks ago, Olivia got a part-time job, and Kristen told him that Kristen was welcome to keep living with them for as long as she would like to.
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Over time, he began to see the positives of Olivia being around. She’s a great cook and also does the majority of the housework.
She’s also very kind and energetic.
“I really did start to enjoy her company, and I talk to her quite a lot. In all honesty, I’ve been enjoying coming home each day from 12 plus hours of work to a warm meal and someone who will listen to me,” he explained.
On the other hand, Kristen works full-time as a teacher, so she has a busy work schedule. He only sees Kristen at night when they’re both home from work.
Because Kristen had more free time during the summer, she spent those months doing more of the housework before the new school year started.
Olivia’s new job is remote, so she spends most of her time in the apartment. This means that he sees her way more often than Kristen these days.
Whenever he and Kristen talk at the end of their workdays, the conversations mostly consist of Kristen ranting to him about the stresses of her day and explaining to him that she’s too exhausted to hear him talk about his day.
Plus, whenever he does try to tell her about his day, he can tell that she’s preoccupied and not listening to him. She often had to ask him to say something again because she wasn’t paying attention.
“It’s something minor in isolation, but it adds up fairly quickly when it happens so often. Fast forward, and I find myself being more drawn to Olivia than Kristen. Olivia has a strong interest in me as well. We’re very certain that we want to pursue a relationship with each other at this stage,” he shared.
However, he later clarified that Olivia has never directly told him that she has romantic feelings for him. All she’s done is talk with him, and he believes that her mannerisms and kindness seem very flirty. He interprets this to mean that she is interested in him.
Now, he feels bad because, in Kristen’s view, their relationship is great and very stable.
He’s reached out to friends about what he should do, and they’ve told him that there wouldn’t be a good way for him to break up with Kristen and start dating Olivia without looking like the bad guy.
Do you think he would be the bad guy if he ended his relationship with Kristen and pursued something with Olivia instead?
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