It’s painful enough to go through infidelity, but how would you feel if your spouse cheated on you and then confessed that they want to start a new life without you in it?
It was back in December that this 42-year-old woman found out that her 43-year-old husband was paying women for certain services and not being faithful to her.
Then he fell in love with one of the girls he was giving money to and started a relationship with her. When she uncovered his affair, her husband begged her not to leave him and promised to do anything to convince her to stay.
Unfortunately, her husband has kept in contact with his affair partner and refused to stop speaking to her. Her husband is also acting like he doesn’t care about how much pain he has caused (and still causes) her.
They have tried to go to couples counseling, and her husband attempted individual therapy, but since he hates both of those options, there’s truly no point. Nothing is working regarding reconciliation.
“He never blames me and tells me I am the most amazing person he has ever met, but this is not enough for him. Tonight, he has told me that he wants to start a new life because I can’t give him what he wants: complete freedom,” she explained.
“This has destroyed me, as I know there is no hope for us. He has completely changed and become a cold, cruel person. I truly believe he is in the midst of a midlife crisis, but he refuses to acknowledge this as a possibility. He also struggles with addiction (mostly alcohol).”
“I started a new job this week and am so close to quitting because I cannot function or focus to the best of my ability. I want to sell the house and disappear. But worst of all, I just want to save my marriage.”
She’s really not sure what she should do, especially since she’s spent the last 25 years by her husband’s side. She cannot picture life without him in it, and she’s terrified to even find out what being alone is like.
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She’s left feeling powerless and like she doesn’t have a say in her future.
I can understand how scary it will be for her to start over without her husband, but she needs to give him what he’s asking for and let him go start a new life without her.
Who would want to stay married to someone like that? He has absolutely no respect for her and has made it clear he’s not choosing her or their marriage.
At that point, all you can do is file for divorce and pick up the pieces.
What advice do you have for her?
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