If you fall out of love with your spouse, don’t you think the kindest thing to do is end your marriage before pursuing other people? Or do you think double-dipping is excusable?
This 30-year-old woman has spent the last eight years with her 33-year-old husband, and he has a history of not being faithful to her.
It was a bit more than a year ago that her husband carried out an emotional affair, and it went on for six months before she was able to catch him.
From there, they attended couples counseling and set about rebuilding trust. She did think her husband was working hard on that, and she was under the impression their marriage was back to being pretty wonderful.
But exactly a week ago, her sister told her that she was convinced she had seen her husband out at the movies. It was such a quick sighting that her sister wasn’t entirely positive, but her heart jumped to her throat.
“He had gone to work, just like he always does, but I had noticed that when he had texted me earlier during his ‘break,’ his text fell off,” she explained.
“That’s when I gathered my kids in the car and headed to his job site. He was about to get off in like 20 minutes, so I knew for sure if he wasn’t there, it was true.”
She arrived at her husband’s job and spotted his car in the parking lot. She parked her own car a bit away from him so that she had a clear shot of the entrance to the building and whether her husband would walk out of there or not.
She did worry that she was acting toxic, but after what her husband put her through with his emotional affair, she knew she had to do some investigating.
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She had to be entirely sure he wasn’t cheating on her again. At 10 p.m., she saw her husband’s coworkers leaving the building, but she didn’t see him at all.
“About 5 minutes later, I see a white car drive in, and to my surprise, I see him driving, with a grin on his face and another woman in the vehicle,” added.
“He parked right next to his car. I flipped out! Started daring towards them, and he must have seen me because he started to drive off!! I was so angry and [started] following them and honking behind them.”
“He realized I wasn’t going anywhere and finally pulled over. I wanted to get out of the car so bad and confront them, and get a better view of the other women, but I had the kids in the car and didn’t want to frighten them as they already were looking frightened.”
Her kids are only toddlers, so they’re far too young to grasp the gravity of the situation. Ultimately, her husband confessed to taking his new female coworker out on a date.
She only started working at his company back in April, but they had already formed a fast connection. Her husband claimed not to know why he felt the need to invite his coworker on a date, because he did not think their marriage was in a great place.
“But in the middle of all my crying, yelling, and tears, he admits that he no longer loves me the way he used to and feels like he has to always force our relationship,” she continued.
“Man, that broke me when he said it. This is my high school sweetheart heart, and even after his emotional affair last year, I really thought we’d be ok.”
“But anyways, the reason I haven’t fully kicked him to the curb is that he’s still here at home trying to work on things with me and tells me he loves me and wants to be with me and only me.”
She realizes she deserves more than this, considering this is not the first time her husband has cheated on her. However, she’s left wondering if she should leave him.
It’s so hard to walk away because she still loves her husband and desperately wants things to work out with him.
Well, it’s hilarious to me that her husband said he only wants to be with her, yet she literally caught him on a date with his coworker.
As hard as it’s going to be for her to walk away from a man she loves, that’s her only option. Her husband has made it clear he’s never going to be faithful to her, and he also had the audacity to say he doesn’t love her like he used to. Ouch.
What advice do you have for her?
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