If Her Husband Can’t Land A Job In The Next Three Months, She’s Leaving Him
Five months ago, this 39-year-old woman got married to her 39-year-old husband. Her husband had a job part-time as a server at a restaurant before their wedding, and it was temporary as he tried to land a job in the graphic design world.
While her husband has a degree in advertising, he never had a professional kind of job in the past and was always a server or bartender.
She anticipated it would take her husband a decent amount of time to get a job in his chosen industry, and that was alright with her.
Over the course of the year and a half leading up to their wedding, her husband participated in an 8-month-long boot camp, learned a lot of skills, actively applied to graphic design jobs, and did everything you really should if you want to get hired.
“It was a little hard on me because I was working full time and paying 2/3 of all the mortgage and 100% of the bills like internet, electricity, water, vet bills, etc.,” she explained.
“Before the wedding, he and I talked about the possibility of quitting his job and using that time to look for work full-time. One day when he picked me up from work, about a week before we left for our destination wedding, he told me he’d quit.”
“I was pretty surprised that he hadn’t told me he was going to do it, but he insisted that the conversation we’d had about him maybe quitting was his green light, and so I chalked it up to a misunderstanding.”
After her husband quit his job, he has made sure to apply to approximately 10 jobs every single day.
With the rest of his free time, her husband has been building his portfolio and learning new skills, such as coding.
Jacob Lund – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
She has gotten into multiple disagreements with him, as she believes he should be working any kind of job while searching for a job in graphic design. Her husband also invests his time into tons of little projects like woodworking, and he never follows through to complete any of those projects.
Then he goes to the gym, leaving lots of things around their home unfinished. One example of this was when he dug up their backyard to begin a drainage project, but he quit and said he didn’t have the money to complete it. So, their yard has been a mess for months because of his lack of follow-through.
Now, she’s completely irritated with her husband’s lack of showing initiative. She knows what it’s like to be unemployed, as she was for a long time, but the difference is she did every single thing in her power to collect a check.
“I temped places I didn’t want to work at all for about $25 less than I’d made since in a decade,” she said.
“I took day gigs. etc. I’ve helped him with everything from tweaking his resume to interview practice to sending him multiple jobs every day. I researched grad programs for him and told him I’d pay for applications and help fill stuff out. He just keeps saying he doesn’t want to give up on his dream.”
“I’m honestly at my wit’s end. I haven’t talked to anyone in our lives about this except my mom because I’m trying to protect him and, frankly, myself. I feel embarrassed that I am having all these doubts and considering leaving so early into our marriage. He is not showing me that he will do whatever it takes to provide for us.”
Her family is the opposite of her husband. Her male cousins, her uncles, and her dads have worked tons of jobs they hated, worked insane hours, and even worked more than one job at times just to provide for their families.
Yet, her husband is not showing her he can do this, and it’s important to her. She’s planning on telling her husband if he can’t get his act together and land a job in three months, she’s leaving him.
It’s no longer something she wants to keep arguing with him over, and instead, it’s a dealbreaker for her if her husband remains unemployed.
How do you think she can bring this up to him?
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