She Refused To Let Her Flakey Maid Of Honor Bring A Plus-One To Her Wedding Because She’s Not In A Long-Term Relationship
Since moving day of their freshman year of college a decade ago, this woman has been friends with Jenny.
They quickly became best friends and have remained close throughout the years. No topic was off-limits for them.
The only time the two of them had any conflict was about seven years ago when Jenny was socializing with some members of her sorority who were engaging in behavior that she didn’t think Jenny should be participating in.
After Jenny eventually distanced herself from these friends, their friendship went back to the way it used to be.
They maintained contact while she attended graduate school.
Even though she didn’t have a lot of extra time on her hands, she made sure to spend as much time as she could with both her boyfriend and Jenny.
Unfortunately, Jenny’s biggest flaw is her flakiness.
She describes herself as a pretty low-maintenance person. Since she enjoys hanging out on the couch, she didn’t get too offended when Jenny flaked out on her.
But throughout their friendship, Jenny has been a no-call no-show to big life events that she’d invited her to, such as her grad school graduation ceremony.
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Last year, her boyfriend proposed to her, and she asked Jenny if she would be her maid of honor.
Jenny was thrilled and immediately accepted this honor.
“After that, hanging out with Jenny essentially became an impossible task. She canceled trying on wedding dresses with me multiple times. Most of my other lady friends had recently moved out of state, so I ended up having to go alone,” she said.
Jenny constantly canceled their plans to get together, sometimes using the excuse that she was too busy.
Instead of letting her know ahead of time, Jenny wouldn’t cancel on her until hours after they’d agreed to hang out or not respond to her until the next day.
As time went on, whenever she attempted to solidify plans, Jenny would tell her that she wasn’t free because she had to study.
While this was obviously stressful and frustrating, she did her best to cut Jenny some slack because she had just started nursing school not that long ago.
In the meantime, Jenny was regularly posting Snapchat stories of her going out drinking, to concerts, and socializing with new friends she’d met in nursing school.
When she confronted Jenny about this discrepancy between her words and actions, Jenny explained that going out was her way of unwinding while she was stressed out and busy.
Eventually, she couldn’t deal with the frustration anymore, so after six months of putting up with Jenny’s flaky behavior, she didn’t go out of her way to get in touch with her anymore.
A couple of months later, she had an upcoming wedding dress fitting.
Leading up to the fitting, she sent Jenny a message, expressing that she felt distance between them, and she asked if she was upset with her for something she’d done or if Jenny didn’t want to be friends anymore.
In the message, she added that she missed seeing her and she would love it if she could make it to her dress fitting.
Jenny responded, telling her that she wasn’t upset with her, that she hadn’t done anything wrong, and that she had just been stressed out.
Then, Jenny informed her that she’d dropped out of nursing school. So, she assumed that Jenny probably didn’t feel too great about dropping out, and this could have been a big part of why she’d kept her distance.
On the day of her dress fitting, Jenny showed up late with her new boyfriend, Mike, whom she’d only been dating for two months. She had not been told ahead of time that Jenny would be bringing her boyfriend along to the fitting.
Jenny already knew that because her fiancé has a large family, they wanted to limit plus-ones only to couples in long-term relationships, married couples, and those who know both her and her fiancé.
She and her fiancé had already agreed that they didn’t want people who they’d never met to attend their wedding.
During her dress fitting, Jenny asked her if she was still sure that she only wanted couples in serious relationships to be given plus-ones, and she affirmed that this was still the rule.
“If I don’t have enough money to invite all of my cousins, who are dear to me, then I’m not going to invite a random plus-one. Then, she proceeded to ask me, in front of her new boyfriend, whom I’d met five minutes prior, if she could bring him to the wedding. I told her absolutely not,” she explained.
She continued, pointing out that Jenny and her boyfriend had only been together for two months, she and her fiancé didn’t know him, and since she’s part of the bridal party, he would have to spend the entire wedding alone anyway.
As she said this, Mike didn’t appear offended or shocked by any of her explanations.
She also felt like the only reason Jenny came to the dress fitting in the first place was to ask if Mike could be her plus-one at the wedding.
“A week later, I got a notification on Facebook: ‘Jenny married Mike.’ I’m flabbergasted. If she isn’t even telling me she’s getting married, then I guess we really aren’t friends anymore. Later that night, I randomly got a text message telling me that she was incredibly insulted by my snap judgment of her relationship,” she shared.
Jenny also told her that she was stunned that she rejected to let Mike be her plus-one at the wedding and that she refused this right in front of him.
After that, Jenny expressed that she would never dream of judging her relationship with her fiancé, no matter how long they’ve been dating (she and her fiancé have been dating for eight years).
Jenny ended her message by saying that she was uncomfortable continuing to be her maid of honor and would be stepping down from the role, and she wished her and her fiancé the best.
In response, she told Jenny that because she flaked out on her while she was maid of honor for a year and then suddenly asked her if she could bring her boyfriend as a plus-one minutes after meeting him while he was right there listening to the conversation, she would be updating Jenny’s invitation to “not going.”
What would you have done if you were in her shoes?
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