Wedding planning is stressful enough without having your in-laws trying to throw a wrench in your plans for your big day, and this poor woman has an exceptionally rude mother-in-law who cannot take a hint.
She honestly feels like body slamming her because that’s how bad things have gotten already. Now, when she and her fiancé sent out their wedding invitations, they expressed that none of their guests can wear white or green.
Her fiancé has a green suit and really wants to stand out, which is why there’s a ban on green. As for white, that goes without saying, because guests are not supposed to wear it, as it’s reserved for the bride.
“…I’ve had a fear of his (what we are peer reviewing as) narcissist mother trying to wear white since before we got engaged. Fast forward to about 2 months ago, my MIL is showing us dresses she wants to wear on her phone and asks my fiancé if she can wear green to match him,” she explained.
“I let him decide if he was comfortable with that, even though it’s kinda weird that she asked despite us being very clear about that. He begrudgingly agreed. Then he got up to go to the bathroom, and she decided she had another dress to show me.”
“‘It’s like champagne,’ she said as she looked it up, and I just knew!! And sure enough, she turned the phone around, and it was white. She literally said, ‘It’s like an off-white,’ like GIRL, my dress is off-white, thank you very much!”
She shut her mother-in-law down by telling her the green dress was gorgeous, because she was trying to firmly deal with her. She does believe her mother-in-law showed her the white dress to get a rise out of her, but she doesn’t fall into her traps.
She did tell her fiancé that his mom was trying to wear a white dress, even though he insisted his mom wasn’t mean enough to wear white to their wedding.
She was hurt by her mother-in-law trying to upstage her, and luckily, her fiancé believed her even though he wasn’t present for that part of the conversation.
Two weeks after that phone call, her mother-in-law texted her to say she got another dress but spent the following week being evasive about the details.
She had her fiancé ask for a photo of the dress, which was green, so she felt like she had nothing to worry about. But a week ago, she was at her in-laws’ house to have dinner with her fiancé, when her mother-in-law brought up another new dress.
Her fiancé overheard his mom saying this to her and followed them to the dress reveal, and her mother-in-law had actually purchased…you guessed it, a white dress.
“We both just kind of froze and then left pretty quickly, but not before she said, ‘I’m the mother of the groom and just want to wear something special to his wedding, I mean your guys’ wedding…,'” she added.
“The next day, she texted me to ask what my mom was wearing, and when I told her, she said, ‘I hope the dress I showed you yesterday isn’t too casual.'”
“I just liked the message, and two days later, my fiancé texted her saying her idea to match was great and that he wants her to wear the green dress so they can look like a family in the photos…Gotta stroke the ego to remind her that we already made an exception for her.”
She’s worried that her mother-in-law won’t stop and will probably try to find a white dress with green accents. She’s going to ask her wedding photographer to take photos of everyone except her mother-in-law, since she cannot be trusted to follow directions.
Also, her mother-in-law is a Facebook boomer mom who reshares memories every single year, and she doesn’t need a reminder annually of her wearing something she’s not supposed to.
“I’m also tempted to buy one of the white dresses she got and do a fit change halfway through the reception, but IDK if I’m petty enough for that,” she concluded.
Her fiancé is a green flag for being a united front with her against his mom. I think it’s a great idea for her to talk to the wedding photographer and have them not take any photos of her mother-in-law.
I’m crossing my fingers that this woman shows up in a green dress instead of a white one, but since her mother-in-law is so insufferable, she could absolutely just threaten her and say that if she has a green or white dress, the photographer will not be taking any photos of her and will be altering the color of her dress to something horrible like traffic cone orange.
It also might not be a bad idea for her to get her bridal party ready with some red wine to accidentally spill on her mother-in-law.
What advice do you have for her?
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