She’s Upset That Her Biological Daughter Wasn’t Included In Her Stepdaughter’s Bridal Party
For three years, this 45-year-old woman has been dating her fiancé, 48. They have been living together since their relationship began.
She has a 15-year-old daughter from a previous relationship, while her fiancé has two daughters, 19 and 21, both from a past relationship.
Her daughter and his 19-year-old daughter both live with them, but his oldest daughter has never lived with them. Throughout the entire time relationship, his oldest daughter has been living with her boyfriend.
This summer, his oldest daughter got engaged to her boyfriend. Her daughter was thrilled because she thought she would be asked to take on a role in the wedding.
Since her daughter has grown up as an only child, she was excited to have a relationship with her fiancé’s daughters.
While the three children get along well, her fiancé’s daughters are close and don’t invite her daughter to hang out despite the fact that they all do the same activities over the weekend, which include going to the movies, shopping, or rodeos. She clarified that his daughters aren’t partiers.
Coincidentally, her daughter would see her fiancé’s daughters out and about at the same places.
Not long after her fiancé’s oldest daughter’s engagement, it became clear that her daughter wasn’t going to be given a role in the wedding.
She could tell she was saddened by this, but her daughter attempted to brush it off and pretend like it didn’t bother her.
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Over the weekend, she was invited to a wedding dress fitting, but her daughter wasn’t invited.
“I feel so torn because I’m happy to be accepted and included with my new bonus daughter, but so sad my biological daughter is being left out. I feel like we are all one family now, and I’m here doing major things with two daughters and leaving one out,” she said.
She acknowledged that since this was her fiancé’s daughter’s wedding, she could do what she wanted, and she accepted this reality.
But at the same time, she feels terrible for her daughter. For so many years, her daughter didn’t have the experience of having siblings, and now, when she has the opportunity to develop a relationship with her future stepsisters, they won’t invite her to hang out with them.
“My fiancé understands my feelings and keeps saying she’ll be included somehow, but that doesn’t seem likely if she’s not even allowed at the dress fitting,” she explained.
She’s upset she feels on behalf of her daughter being excluded, but she wouldn’t dream of pressuring for her daughter to be given some sort of role in her fiancé’s daughter’s wedding. It makes sense that since his daughters aren’t close with her daughter, she understands why it isn’t a given that her daughter would be included in huge life events like this wedding.
“My daughter hasn’t once spoken negatively or whined about anything. As a mom, I just know her feelings are bruised,” she shared.
Despite the recent events, all three of their daughters are kind, warm, and thoughtful toward one another.
In her view, their combined family is amazing, and they’re all looking forward to her fiancé’s daughter’s upcoming wedding.
What advice would you give her?
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