He Called His Wife Entitled After She Felt “Owed” For Raising Their Children And Stuck Him With All Of The Household Responsibilities
When you’re a parent and suddenly become an empty nester, your relationship dynamic with your spouse can easily change.
One man recently snapped at his wife and called her entitled after she recently passed all of her household duties onto him once their kids moved out.
He and his wife, Anne, are in their late 40s and have two kids. He works full time while Anne was a stay-at-home mom for their kids. However, their youngest moved out last year, making him and Anne empty-nesters. Instead of getting a job or doing something else with her time, Anne decided to remain a housewife.
“What’s changed is that she says she’s ‘owed’ for raising our kids and taking care of the household,” he explained.
“She wants more personal time [and] less work around the house, so I’ve basically taken over almost all the housework, cooking three meals [and] cleaning the house. I’m still working a full-time job, and I never slacked on chores that I [always] did, such as gardening, hard-lifting, etc., and I was never an absent father.”
He dealt with Anne’s attitude and sudden “break” for most of last year, but he’s become more upset as she’s gotten more aggressive. Anne will berate and embarrass him in front of the kids, accusing him of not doing anything around the house even though he’s taken on most of the chores.
A few mornings ago, an incident happened that was like the last straw for him.
The night before, Anne went out with friends while he went to bed early because he had work the next day. The following morning, he woke up and couldn’t find his keys anywhere. He tried waking Anne up to see if she knew where they were, and she told him to find them himself before going back to sleep.
Finally, he decided to look in her purse, and he found the keys.
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Later, when he got home, Anne confronted him and told him he had invaded her privacy by going through her purse.
“I tried to tell her that she told me to find them myself, but she kept cutting me off, saying I should have known better than to dig through her personal belongings,” he recalled.
“[Anne said] she has rights, and I should respect them and wait for her to wake before getting her to find the keys herself. It was when she said she didn’t care if I was late to work that I lost it.”
Anne told him she didn’t care if he was late for work because they didn’t need that money anymore.
He snapped at Anne and called her entitled and selfish. He told her the only reason she’s been able to enjoy herself and do what she wants is because of his income.
Then, he told her if she wanted what was “owed” to her after taking care of their kids, she’d have to earn that money by getting a job.
Anne was shocked that he yelled at her and locked herself in their bedroom and hadn’t spoken to him.
He called their kids to ask for advice, and while they sympathized with him, his son said he may have been too harsh with Anne by calling her entitled and undermining everything she did as a stay-at-home mom.
Was he wrong to call his wife entitled, or was his outburst understandable?
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