At the end of June, this 19-year-old woman and her now ex-boyfriend, 19, ended their relationship. They dated for nearly a year, and she had a close bond with her ex’s family.
Over the holidays last year, her ex’s family allowed her to stay with them because her parents weren’t around, and she felt welcomed and accepted into their home.
“We broke up because I found out that he had been cheating on me with a girl I actually hated, which made the breakup so much worse,” she said.
About a month after they broke up, she went to her ex’s house so that she could grab some of the belongings she’d left behind.
His parents were there while she was doing this, and they were baffled about what she was doing. It was clear they weren’t aware of the breakup.
Her ex’s parents said that he’d told them last week that he’d spent time with her, so they thought she was still dating him.
She broke the news to them that they had ended their relationship several weeks ago, and they asked if she wanted to have a meal together and have a talk with them.
“They served dinner and just asked for a rundown of what happened. I explained to them that I found out that for the last two months of our relationship, he was cheating on me with a girl I really didn’t like. I showed them the messages and Instagram posts of them together, and his family was fuming,” she explained.
After spending time with her ex’s parents, they were appreciative of her sharing why she and their son broke up, and they said sorry for how their son treated her. In response, she assured them that they didn’t need to apologize since they weren’t the ones who did this.
That same night, her ex’s sister sent her a text message with an apology for her brother’s actions, expressing that she would enjoy it if the two of them could remain friends.
She texted back, telling her that they could definitely still be friends because she didn’t have any hard feelings toward her. Later, they talked on the phone and played Roblox together.
“The next morning, my ex sent me a bunch of really nasty messages, asking why I told his family about us breaking up and how pathetic and desperate I must be to run to his parents and tell them everything, and even insinuated that I still wanted him,” she shared.
She texted him to explain that she was only at his house in the first place so that she could pick up her belongings, adding that they wouldn’t have asked her for the story of why they broke up if he had told them what he’d done.
Instead, her ex hid the truth from his parents, and they were shocked when they learned that his relationship ended weeks prior.
Eventually, her ex messaged her back, telling her that it was none of her business to inform his parents of the breakup.
When she asked her friend for her thoughts, her friend took her ex’s side in the situation. She speculated that her friend was only saying this because her friend used to have a crush on her ex, and she suspects that her friend had been hoping for the relationship to fail all along.
Despite having issues with this friend, she hasn’t discussed her frustrations about her friend’s unsupportive comments with her because she has a habit of avoiding conflict.
What advice would you give her?
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