She Told Her Fiancé That He Needs To Move Out Until He Can Get A Job And Contribute To Their Expenses
This woman has been in a relationship with her fiancé on and off for the last seven years, and he’s a felon.
He committed non-violent crimes, and he has learned lessons from the bad choices he made in the past, so she’s accepted this. Unfortunately, though, her fiancé’s criminal history is an obstacle when he’s applying for jobs.
Because he prioritizes finding a job he enjoys doing, this makes him more selective when looking for work.
He would never work somewhere in which he was unhappy. While she understands this in theory and acknowledges that most people would prefer to have jobs they enjoy, not everyone has that luxury.
“However, due to his felony, he really can’t be very picky, and in this economy, money is an important factor for survival. Meaning, take any job you can get,” she said.
Over the years, she’s often had to stay at jobs she hated so that she could pay her bills. Now, she makes a decent living and has a stable job, but she pays all of her and her fiancé’s monthly expenses.
She also buys their groceries and anything else they need. While she doesn’t mind being the main breadwinner, she wants to be with someone who can financially contribute to the household.
Her fiancé won’t apply for jobs, so she applies for jobs on his behalf, but he won’t consider accepting interviews at places that would possibly hire him despite his felony, like Wal-Mart and Home Depot.
He has a barely part-time job, making about $200 to $300 per week at the maximum, which is only enough to pay for his gas.
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“While I am sensitive to the fact that this can be hard on him and make him feel like he isn’t enough, capable, or worth anything, I do express that getting a job that he may not like can lead to opportunities he may really enjoy, and he can get out of the funk he is in and built the confidence he wants!” she explained.
She pointed out that if her fiancé worked at McDonald’s, he could further his education and get into a career he would be happier with.
Throughout this frustrating situation, she’s reached out to family and friends for ideas on how her fiancé could help her while he’s not working, and they suggested that she ask her fiancé to pitch in with house and yard work.
Since she works about 9 or 10 hours a day and gets home late every night, she feels so exhausted and stressed most days.
Her fiancé doesn’t make dinner or do any housework, so even after working long shifts, she’s always been the one doing these tasks.
“I have brought this up, and we’ve discussed him helping out at the house, which he does agree to, but then after one to two days of doing things while I’m at work, it peters out and gets all overwhelming again. Anytime I bring up moving out and focusing on getting a job, he has a meltdown, saying that it means I really don’t want to be with him,” she shared.
Now, she’s concerned that even though they’re engaged, her fiancé isn’t ready for marriage. She’s wondering if she should take time to decide what’s best for her.
Despite her frustrations within the relationship, she deeply loves her fiancé. Still, she told him she wanted him to move out of the house until he started working enough to contribute financially.
What would you have done if you were in her shoes?
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