These Are The Largest Lessons That You Will Learn From Your Very First Heartbreak
Two of the biggest milestones you’ll face in your life are entering your first relationship and experiencing your first big heartbreak.
If you’ve never known what it’s like to break up with someone you were in a serious relationship with, you’re in for quite the ride. There are so many people out there who talk about how to handle your first heartbreak as a tween or teenager, but it can happen at any age. No matter how old you are, how long the relationship was, or how you broke up, it’s a painful experience.
However, like any other challenge life throws our way, there are lessons to learn from your first heartbreak that help you learn about yourself and prepare for your next experience. Here are a few of those lessons commonly learned after having your heart broken for the first time.
You’ll be reminded of them a lot
While people may physically remove themselves from our lives and we lose contact with them, they never actually leave us. While experiencing your first heartbreak, you’ll probably be faced with many reminders of your ex. You’ll think about them when a certain song comes on, when you go somewhere you went together, when you watch a show they loved, etc.
Even when the pain has settled, and you start to move on, things here and there will still remind you of your ex. However, instead of letting those memories make you sad, let them remind you of the good times you shared together.
It will affect you physically
When people say heartbreak is painful, they’re not just talking about mental or emotional pain. Heartbreak is a painful experience all around. If you cry a lot, you likely get headaches, a swollen face, congestion, etc. You may also feel some tenderness in your chest, and some depression and anxiety can affect your appetite and energy levels.
While it’s normal to feel your heartbreak physically and have these symptoms in the first few days or the first week of heartbreak, if they continue for longer than a few weeks or a month, you should seek help from a counselor or medical professional.
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You won’t stop loving them right away
A lot of people, especially younger people, assume that when you break up with someone, or they screw you over and break your heart, you stop loving them. However, that’s usually not the case. Sure, you may be angry with them, but love is a hard thing to lose.
The love you have for your ex will likely stay with you for a while but will slowly fade over time as you move on and continue to do great things with your life.
You’ll learn who your most supportive friends are
Having good friends during a period of heartbreak is crucial. During this difficult time, you need a listening ear and someone who is willing to let you vent and cry to them for a while. When you start needing that from your friends, the realest ones will stick around and give you what you need.
Friends who don’t have your best interests at heart will likely start to avoid you. Stick with those who show up because you’ll probably have to re-pay the favor one day.
You will get through it
When you’re heartbroken, it feels like the pain will never end. However, you will make it out on the other side, and these horrible feelings won’t last forever.
You have to remember that life does go on and you will start to heal. Once you finally begin to feel like yourself again, you’ll be even stronger, so take that newfound strength with you into any future heartbreak.
Having your heart broken is an experience like no other. However, once you live and learn through the first ones, everything after that will be easier. Hang in there!
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