Her Mom Called Her Spoiled When She Said She Wouldn’t Help Care For Her Now That She’s Having Health Problems
I’ve heard many stories of people who felt ignored or cast aside by their parents because they had a sick sibling growing up.
Health complications can cause a lot of tension within families, and this woman’s story is proof of that.
One woman recently got into a fight with her mom, who ignored her needs growing up after her little sister was born with health issues.
She’s 24-years-old and has had a rocky relationship with her mom since she was five when her little sister was born. Her little sister was born prematurely and was one of their local hospital’s youngest ‘premies’ in history.
Her father and her sister’s father were not involved when they were kids, so when her little sister was born, her mom was a single mom.
“My mother went from being my mom to being an almost stranger to me,” she said.
“She spent all her time at the hospital with my sister, and I was passed around from friends to family and even to strangers my mother and I didn’t know.”
“An aunt would hand me over to someone in her husband’s family, or a family friend would pass me onto their friend.”
Unfortunately, when her baby sister finally started getting stronger, and everyone thought she’d be able to go home from the hospital, several complications arose, and she had to stay in the hospital even longer.
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For years, her mom and sister were in and out of the hospital for treatments and surgeries. Sadly, when her mom could be home with her sister, she wasn’t invited back and still had to stay with others.
In the rare moments she was home alone with her mom, her mom’s focus was always on her sister and her health.
When her sister was only two years old, she was diagnosed with cancer, and her mom disappeared from her life again.
By the time she was 10, her mom was okay with leaving her home alone while she went to the hospital for her sister.
“It was around this time that my teachers started to suggest I might have dyslexia, and the school reacted out to my mother, but she was too focused on my sister to do anything for me,” she explained.
“Nothing changed after my sister became cancer-free and was less sick and needed the hospital less.”
“My mother was so devoted to her that she didn’t pay attention to me, and [they] both were strangers to me.”
When she was a teenager, she decided to move in with her girlfriend’s family and hardly ever heard from her mom. She’d only see her whenever she popped by her house to pick up clothes or other personal items.
When she was 18, she moved away on her own and was officially diagnosed with dyslexia.
Between the year she moved away, and now, her mom and sister hardly reached out to her. It was as if it was too late to form a bond with either of them.
But recently, her mom and sister both began contacting her because her mom has been having some health issues, and they need her help.
She didn’t end up doing anything for them, and her mom began to confront her. Her mom accused her of punishing her sister for “existing” and said her sister deserved a relationship with her.
She fought back, telling her mom that she didn’t have a relationship with her sister because of her actions.
“I also told her she hadn’t been my mom since I was five, and she had no right to ask me to care for her when she hasn’t cared for me in almost 20 years,” she recalled.
Instead of apologizing, her mom called her spoiled and told her she was acting like a child.
Was she wrong to deny her mom any help, or should her mom have apologized before expecting anything from her?
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