A Guide To Breaking Up With Someone You Still Love
Having to break up with someone is one of the worst feelings in the world, especially if you still have feelings for them.
There are several reasons why you may need to break up with someone, whether it has to do with you not seeing that person as much anymore, you have an upcoming big life change, etc.
However, after some careful reflection, you may find that your relationship is no longer working out, even if you still deeply care for the person you’re with.
You’ve tried working on the relationship, but something deep down keeps telling you that it isn’t working.
So, here’s how to approach breaking up with someone you still have feelings for.
1. Prepare yourself
You never want to go into a breakup conversation without knowing what you want to say to that person.
If you have to, write down the reasons why you’re ready to close this chapter so that you can go into the conversation a bit more confident.
2. Give your partner a chance to talk
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When breaking up with someone you care about, unless they’ve done something really bad, you should give them the opportunity to express how they feel in that moment.
You don’t want to cut off their voice completely. Hey, maybe they were feeling the same way, and you could end up having a clean, mutual break! You’ll never know if you don’t let them speak.
3. Have compassion
You’ll want to choose a calm setting to have this talk in and remember to speak with compassion. It’s not an easy conversation to have, and if you still love this person, the last thing you want to do is make your breakup feel like an attack.
Remember to remind them that you still care about them, but you must move on for a certain reason.
4. Set boundaries
Breaking up with someone you still have feelings for is hard because there’s a good chance you can get sucked back into seeing them again or fall into the relationship again entirely.
Remember – you’re breaking up with this person for a reason. You need to see what it’s like being single again, no matter how scary it may feel.
Tell your ex-partner you need to not talk for a while, meaning you should avoid texting or calling each other. It’s a surefire way to avoid re-entering a relationship you want to leave.
5. Buckle up for the healing process
After finally ending your relationship, it’s time to heal. Spoiler alert – it’s going to hurt. You still have feelings for this person, yet you can’t date, hug, or kiss them anymore. It’ll take a while to get used to this major lifestyle change, so remember to take things one day at a time and keep in touch with your family and friends, who will be there to help you. You’ll be alright!
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