This guy isn’t currently looking for a serious relationship, but he still really enjoys going out on dates. So, when he decided to make a Tinder profile, he made it very clear that he was only looking for “something casual.”
Now, he didn’t mean he just wanted to sleep with women. Instead, he just wanted to go out on dates with different people.
“But I’m not looking to be exclusive with one person, and I’m not looking to be in a relationship,” he said.
Anyway, he’s actually gotten a ton of solid matches on the platform, which is why he’s been going out on dates with new people and having a great time.
One of these people was a specific woman, and, at the beginning, they really hit it off, and he thought everything was fine.
For their dates together, they’ve gone bowling, visited a few cocktail bars, and even spent a day out once.
“Again, though, I made it clear to her from the start that it was only casual and that I would be going on dates with others,” he recalled.
Yet, after they went on five or six dates over the span of a few weeks, the woman brought up the topic of deleting the Tinder app. Then, she claimed that, since they got along so well, she wanted to become exclusive with him.
In response, he apologized and reminded her about how he was not looking for a relationship. He also pointed out how he was still seeing other people.
Well, the woman tried to convince him to give a relationship a shot, but he stood his ground, apologized again, and refused to start officially dating her.
Afterward, the whole conversation went downhill quickly, too. The woman started accusing him of leading her on ever since they started going out on “actual dates” together.
Plus, she believed that people didn’t just go out on “day dates” unless they were seriously seeing each other.
Once she got so upset, he felt like the only thing he could do was remind her for a third time that he never was interested in starting a relationship.
“And if she wasn’t okay with that, then she should have said that from the start,” he vented.
Still, when he confided in one of his female housemates about the situation, she actually agreed with the woman and told him that he had been leading his date on.
The rest of his housemates then turned against him on this, too, so now, he’s been left wondering if he really led the woman on– even after he made it known that he never wanted a committed relationship.
If he made his intentions so clear, why do you think the woman still felt like she was led on? Should he have done anything differently or not? How would you handle this sticky situation?
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