He’s Thinking Of Breaking Up With His Fiancée Because He Has Terminal Cancer
For more than a decade now, this 33-year-old man has struggled with cancer. He was first diagnosed at the age of 20, and even back then, the doctors told him that he had several bad tumors, which meant he was terminal.
Miraculously, he has lived until now, and he knows he is living on “borrowed time.” He spends every single day like it may be the last one that he has, as that’s his reality.
He’s lived a full life since his diagnosis, too, and he has made sure to spend his time doing every single thing his heart desires.
“I’ve eaten good food, skydived, rode motorcycles and horses, collected hobbies and skills, read books, watched movies, laughed, I did everything I could to enjoy every minute,” he explained.
“I know one day I’ll run out of them. A little over six years ago, I met a woman whom I love (F26). She’s brilliant, hilarious, her smile is infectious; I want to spend all of my minutes around her.”
“Somewhere along the lines, things started to change for me. I went from living life one day at a time to planning for a future. Things I never really thought I’d get. I started pursuing career options, and I’ve helped support her through college. We got engaged, and we are planning a fancy wedding. Talking about houses and kids. All these future things that I can’t do today.”
Back in December, he went in for a cancer screening, which revealed that he had a small tumor that was removed and diagnosed as Carcinoma of Unknown Primary Origin.
What this essentially means is that somewhere within his body, there is another scary tumor. Two oncologists have proposed treatment plans for him, but they are drastically different.
The single thing these oncologists agree on is that it seems his time is finally up.
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This terrifying news has left him wondering if he should break up with his fiancée, even though he loves her with every fiber of his being.
That being said, he believes it’s too selfish to remain with her, especially as his time on Earth is coming to an end.
“It feels like I’m robbing her of that future we wanted. The one we’ve been planning so hard,” he said.
“She’s never really experienced loss; she hasn’t seen what cancer does to someone. She is young and wonderful and could start over and be so happy. Dragging her through all of this might break her down. I’ve never been scared of dying, but I’m so scared of ruining her.”
His fiancée is already saying she can drop out of college and find a job to help support them financially as he undergoes his next steps with his diagnosis.
His fiancée also has mentioned canceling their large and elaborate wedding in favor of a tiny backyard bash so they can quickly get married before he starts his journey.
She also knows the money they saved is going to quickly disappear. Their dream wedding, their jobs, their home, the kids they imagined; it’s all vanishing before his very eyes.
“I just feel so selfish. I started wanting a future. I started wanting things I could never have,” he continued.
“Now I’m afraid that I’m going to take those things away from the person I love most. I have always known that I wouldn’t live a long time.”
“Today, my only regret is bringing someone else into it this far. Do I let her walk away from her dreams? Is it easier for her if I just end things now before we get any further? I’m so lost.”
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