His New Girlfriend Wants To Visit His Late Wife’s Grave, But He Feels Conflicted
Tragically, this 29-year-old man lost his wife in 2020. She was his entire world, and they had their future together all mapped out.
His wife wanted to start trying to have kids by 2021, and then she passed away before they even had an opportunity to build a family.
“I felt I had lost all sense of purpose and, after an agonizing year, moved away – not too far, but not close either,” he explained.
“I didn’t feel like I could breathe in that town. Still, every Saturday, I get back and visit her resting place.”
“I just functioned for about two years – I am not depressed or anything like that, but I just functioned.”
Then last year, he met his new 32-year-old girlfriend, Ada. At first, they just hung out and spent time chatting.
Ada can act a smidge disdainful and look down on people she doesn’t know really well at all, but underneath that prickliness, Ada is actually incredibly kind.
When Ada came into his life, she gave him a reason to be excited again. Ada loves to do the majority of the talking in their relationship, which is great for him, as he never really knows exactly what to say.
“She knows everything about my wife, and this didn’t discourage her,” he said. “She knows I am doing therapy and still mourning, but she never left me alone.”
anastasianess – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“I asked her to tell me if anything I do or say makes her feel uncomfortable or like she’s not a priority – she said that, as of now, I am doing nothing of the sort.”
“She knows what I do every Saturday morning and never objected to it. But today, she said she would like to “meet her,” as in accompanying me in visiting her grave.”
He honestly wasn’t sure how to handle Ada’s interesting request. He isn’t positive if it’s too soon to include Ada in his Saturday morning routine.
He also isn’t certain if he should ask her to wait until they’ve been dating for a longer amount of time before allowing her to come with him.
“I feel conflicted about this. On the one hand, I respect and feel touched by her wish; on the other, it feels…weird for a guy to take the new girlfriend where the first wife is buried,” he continued.
What do you think he should do? Should he allow Ada to come with him next Saturday morning to visit his late wife’s grave?
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