She Cried When Her Fiancé Said She Has A Face Like A Horse, And She’s Considering Calling Off Their Engagement
Several months ago, this 31-year-old woman and her 31-year-old fiancé were on their couch watching TV.
A girl came across the screen, being interviewed, and her fiancé remarked that the girl had almond-looking eyes.
She responded that she has eyes like that too, but her fiancé just turned to look at her and stated, “I said almond eyes, not horse face.”
She was so shocked that he would tell her that her face looks like a horse that she couldn’t even respond in that moment.
She just sat there quietly for a bit, allowing his words to sink in, and then she began to cry in front of him.
“He offered no apology, and I just sat there in silence the rest of the night,” she explained. “Now it’s three months or so later, and his words have really stuck with me.”
“I find myself thinking about it more often than I would like to admit. I have a hard enough time feeling beautiful as is, and after his comment, my self-esteem is in the negative.”
“I have found [physical closeness] to be more difficult due to being so self-conscious. Am I overreacting? I spoke to my brother about it, and he said he can’t imagine ever speaking to someone he loves that way, but I wonder if he is just taking my side because he’s my best friend.”
She has tried to tell her fiancé that she is still so incredibly hurt by what he said, but he simply told her he never said that at all, which is clearly a lie.
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She confronted her fiancé again and reminded him that he did call her a horse face, and she relayed his comment exactly in his own words in an effort to show him that he couldn’t deny what had happened.
Her fiancé then asked her if she would be happy with an apology from him, but she knows that won’t help her feel better, as he’s only gaslighting her and offering up a false apology to keep her quiet.
She knows he’s not genuine, let alone sorry, and she isn’t sure how to move past this, especially since her confidence and feelings are a mess.
She has attempted to once more approach the topic with her fiancé, and he called her a terrible person before telling her to leave their house.
So, she’s trying not to make waves while coming up with an exit strategy, as she’s considering calling off the engagement if his behavior cannot change.
She loves him, and he’s super loyal to her, so she doesn’t want to end their engagement without trying to fix things, but she recognizes she should be treated better.
“If I don’t see a real effort to change going forward, I will absolutely be calling the engagement off and looking for somewhere else to go,” she added.
What advice do you have for her?
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