She Saved Up For Years To Afford A Dream European Vacation, But Her Husband Never Applied For A Visa, So Now She Wants To Just Go By Herself
Ever since this 39-year-old woman was a little girl, she has dreamed of traveling to Europe.
But, she didn’t have a lot of money growing up, so she had to work hard in order to climb the corporate ladder and earn a good salary.
Then, once she started bringing home enough money, she was able to finally start saving up and working toward fulfilling her lifelong traveling dream.
However, she’s currently married to her husband– who is 43– and she is also the “head of the household.”
“Meaning I handle 90% of the expenses at home to support my husband’s dream of building his company, and that leaves me with little money to save for anything,” she explained.
But, after enduring countless struggles and making a lot of sacrifices, she and her husband’s finances are finally in a “great” spot. In other words, she thought it was finally time to take their long trip to Europe together.
Everything is totally prepared, too. She can get free plane tickets using her credit card points, and she has already been approved for PTO at work. Plus, she learned French and Italian to help them along on their travels, and she has enough money saved up to support both her and her husband as they enjoy the vacation.
There’s one main issue with her plan, though: her husband is not a U.S. citizen and requires a visa to travel abroad, which he never actually got.
For some context, they have both known for years that he needed a visa, and they talked about it when they first discussed traveling to Europe together. So, she has been constantly reminding him to check on the visa application requirements so it could be processed in time for their trip.
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Well, little did she know that her husband had only looked at the documents required and never actually submitted anything.
“He kept postponing the process until February started, and it seems now is a little too late,” she revealed.
“There are no appointments for any of the embassies of the Schengen countries until March starts, and the ones we have contacted say it would take 15 business days to process the visa– three weeks– and that would make it too late.”
That’s a major problem for her, too, since her PTO was already approved. She also can’t use her PTO after March 31 since it was rolled over from 2023. So, by postponing the trip, she would lose her vacation time and probably not be able to get that much time off again.
“I am frustrated and sad and angry because he knew how much I wanted this trip and also because it is very much not the first time he dropped the ball on leaving later for important things or not completing things in time, and then we both struggle,” she vented.
Her husband hasn’t been helpful in finding any other solutions, either. All he said was that she should just go on the trip by herself, but she’s still worried that he will resent her if she listens.
“But I also know I will resent me if I don’t,” she admitted.
So now, she really isn’t sure if going away on her dream vacation without her husband would be the wrong thing to do or not.
How would you feel if your spouse slacked off on their one requirement for your lifelong dream trip? Do you think she should go on the trip or not? What would you do in her shoes?
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