If you knew about an affair, would you keep the secret to yourself or tell the unsuspecting spouse about what their partner has been up to behind their back?
Unfortunately, this man found out that his wife was cheating on him recently after coming across a hidden email. He’s completely traumatized over what he uncovered when he found even more emails between his wife and her affair partner.
He then confronted his wife and demanded to see her phone, which held additional evidence of her affair. He learned that his wife’s affair partner is none other than a married man.
So a couple of days ago, he went online to see if he could find the phone number for the wife of his own wife’s affair partner. He did manage to get his hands on it, and he cold-called this woman.
“I prepared what I would say if it went to voicemail, but she answered. My intention, honestly, wasn’t revenge. I wasn’t calling to yell at her, humiliate her husband, or blow up their marriage,” he explained.
“I just kept thinking that if I were in her position, I would want to know the truth. I felt like she deserved the same information that I had.”
“When she answered, I told her who I was and why I was calling. She was completely blindsided. She cried. She said she would talk to her husband. I told her I would never contact her again, but that if she ever wanted to reach out, I would answer her questions because I know a lot of details about the affair.”
The call made him feel absolutely terrible. He does think he did the right thing and that this woman needed to hear the truth from him.
But at the same time, he was the one who ruined the impression of her marriage and her husband. He destroyed her life and turned everything upside down for her.
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He wasn’t the one who cheated or lied or stabbed this woman in the back; that was her own husband, who was capable of all that.
“But emotionally, I can’t shake the feeling that I was the one who ruined someone’s life. Has anyone else been in this position?” he wondered.
“How did you deal with the guilt of being the messenger when the message was devastating? I feel like I ruined someone’s life that was ultimately happy.”
I know his phone call was a painful one for this poor woman to hear, but someone had to tell her. Allowing her to keep on living in a false reality would have been crueler than telling her the truth.
Sometimes, doing the right thing is hard and hurtful.
What advice do you have for him?
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