She Told Her Husband Not To Be Surprised When He Loses Her And Their Kids Because All He Seems To Care About Is Playing Video Games
This 32-year-old woman has been with her husband, who is 30, for a decade. They have an 8-year-old daughter together, and she has an 11-year-old son from a prior relationship. Her husband has never been a present father, but he’s usually been supportive and helped her when needed.
Over the last several weeks, he has become more isolated. Each night, after coming home from work, he plays video games on his computer until 1 a.m. A couple of weekends ago, their town hosted parades and other family-friendly events that she and the children were excited to check out.
Because her husband assumed that she and the kids were only interested in seeing the last holiday, on Sunday, they missed all of the other parades and events and opted to only attend Sunday’s parade. Two hours before they needed to leave to catch the parade, her husband turned his computer on, claiming he had to do something quickly.
She and the kids continued getting ready to leave, and 45 minutes before the parade started, her husband said he’d rather stay home instead. So, she took her children to the parade, and they had a blast. Her kids caught tons of candy, toys, and beads that people on the floats threw into the crowd. At the time, her children didn’t seem upset that her husband hadn’t come with them. Days later, her husband wanted to set up a server for himself and others to play video games.
“It cost $80 to get started. I got paid in three days and told him he could wait until then to pay for it but that I wasn’t taking money out of our savings to do so,” she said.
After she told him this, he called his mother to ask her for the money, and she didn’t find out he did this until two days later, on Valentine’s Day, when she questioned where he got the money for his server.
Unfortunately, she and her mother-in-law aren’t close and have had a lot of tension between them over the years. Money has always been a point of contention, and her husband is aware of that. She explained that he should have told her he’d asked his mom for money.
“He tries to tell me he ‘thought’ he did, then smirks because he knows for a fact he never did. He was trying to make me second-guess myself,” she explained.
Sadly, her husband didn’t buy her or their children anything for Valentine’s Day, but she didn’t tell him how hurt she was because she hoped they could move forward. Then, this weekend, their daughter participated in an art showcase. Understandably, their daughter was looking forward to showing off her talents and all the hard work she put into her art.
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The night before the showcase, her husband played video games until 3 a.m. or 4 a.m. She tried to forcibly wake him up four times that morning, to no avail. Eventually, he began to stir when she and their kids needed to leave the house, and he said that he’d rather stay home and skip the showcase.
While her daughter didn’t seem sad that he would miss the event, she was devastated that he didn’t care about spending time with his family. During the art showcase, she saw her daughter’s gorgeous painting and felt so proud of her. It was wonderful to watch how happy her daughter was while showing off her painting on the wall.
Later, they entered an activity room where all attendees could create their own artwork. She and her son started coloring, and her son later did some crafts.
“My daughter then says to me, ‘I’m kind of glad Dad didn’t come. You’re more fun when he’s not around. And he’s always so grumpy and rushes us,'” she shared.
She held back tears as she felt even more heartbroken than before. When the showcase ended, she took her children to get donuts from a downtown shop in celebration of her daughter’s success, which she knew her husband wouldn’t have suggested or enjoyed if he had been there.
They were gone for three hours, and when they got home, her husband was playing video games on his computer, as usual. He looked over and could see that she wasn’t happy.
He asked her what was going on, and she explained that she was upset that he couldn’t carve out three hours to support his daughter for an event that meant a lot to her. She added that in the future when he wakes up by himself when their children don’t communicate with him, he shouldn’t be shocked because it’ll be all his fault.
In response, her husband laughed before dismissively saying, “Whatever.” He then turned away and continued playing his video game.
What advice would you give her?
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