Asking Her Husband For A Divorce Is The Most Difficult Thing She’s Ever Done, But He Won’t Accept This Is What She Wants
A week ago, this 31-year-old woman asked her 37-year-old husband for a divorce. She spent years being miserable in her marriage, and she and her husband have been going to therapy together for one year so far, with no real change or improvement.
She pleaded with her husband to change his behavior and fix how dependent he is upon her, but he never listened.
During one therapy session, she had an absolute breakdown and mentioned she was at the end of her rope, as their issues appeared to be things they could never solve.
Her husband replied that he felt as if she was ganging up on him with their therapist since she has problems too.
So, she finally gathered up the courage to tell her husband that she wants a divorce, and it wasn’t an easy thing for her to ask for.
In fact, this is the most difficult thing she’s ever done.
“The next time we met, he had prepared a letter taking responsibility for all I had been hoping we could fix,” she explained.
“At the time, hearing him read it, it was devastating. And I realized that it took me blowing up our lives for him to finally realize what I had been begging him to realize for over a year.”
“I said that it did not change anything, and since then, he has been begging for just one more chance to fix things and be better.”
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She has since been staying with her mom, and she’s feeling more relaxed and free than she has in several years.
She’s been crying a lot and feeling guilty, but she is finally doing what’s best for her and not what’s best for her husband.
The morning after she and her husband met and he read her the letter, he actually emailed her a copy.
As she opened it up, it made her furious this time instead of sad to read what he wrote. She was livid with him for not believing that she’s done with their marriage.
She’s angry that he still thinks there is time for them to work on their issues, even though she made it obvious she’s exiting this relationship.
“I responded by sending a to-do list I had made of how to disentangle our lives from one another,” she said.
“…We met as a check-in last night, and he asked me again to explain why I did not want to give him another chance, that he would do all the work to fix everything, and I did, but said that I would not again.”
“I just do not know how to articulate why it does not mean anything now that it took me leaving him to make him realize all I had been begging him to realize for years. Does anyone have any suggestions for wording? I know I do not owe him anything, but I hope to help him understand and get closure so he can begin the process of acceptance and moving on.”
How do you think she can make it clear to him that she is following through with a divorce considering he won’t accept hearing this?
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