Her Boyfriend Doesn’t Want Her Son To Come With Them To Family Events So She’s Questioning Their Relationship
For the last six months, this 28-year-old woman has been dating her 27-year-old boyfriend after they met through some friends they share.
Since the day that she met her boyfriend, she shared with him that she has a 6-year-old son from a previous marriage.
Her boyfriend has met her son, and they get along wonderfully. When she does spend time with just her boyfriend and her son, there are no problems. In fact, her boyfriend spends one or two nights over at her place every single week.
“It’s important to mention my son has severe ADHD that we are just starting to medicate him for,” she explained.
“He struggles in social situations, especially when there are a lot of people he doesn’t know/if he’s in an unfamiliar environment. Once he’s overstimulated, we usually have to leave an event.”
Now, her boyfriend lives at home with his parents and his two siblings, who are in their 20s. He’s still living at home so he can save up enough money to purchase a home, which he’s close to doing quite soon.
His family home is not exactly meant for kids. His family has no kids, and there are a lot of breakable items or decorations throughout his family home.
His parents also like peace and quiet, and they enforce very strict rules, even though her boyfriend and his siblings are technically all adults.
“There have been a couple [of] occasions where my boyfriend has politely uninvited me to things when I tell him my son is coming with me,” she said.
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“This has happened with a Superbowl party and a couple of family dinners with his parents and aunts/uncles.”
“He says it’s not personal, and I need to remember it’s not his house. He says certain things kids are just not invited to. And yes, they know I have a child because we talk about him all the time. Though I understand where he is coming from, I told him it’s still hurtful to hear.”
This past week, her boyfriend asked her to attend his mom and dad’s surprise anniversary party that he and his siblings are throwing.
Her boyfriend mentioned that his whole family will be there, in addition to his mom and dad’s business partners.
She questioned her boyfriend if her son could come too, and he said yes. On the day of the anniversary party, she video-called her boyfriend to confirm the time she should arrive.
It was then that her boyfriend sprung it on her that he wasn’t positive she should bring her son, unless she could guarantee her son would be on his best behavior.
“I was hesitant to bring him anyway because I knew he would be the only child there,” she said. “But he was basically uninviting me again unless I brought my son to a babysitter.”
“This all has me questioning the relationship entirely. Should I take this as a sign that this is not a good fit for me? Or am I being too sensitive?”
“The logical part of me is thinking he is right, and there [are] some events my child is just not ready for. But the emotional part of me is hurt and feels like the right person should accept this is a packaged deal no matter what. How do I approach this?”
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